Kilted Wedding

[Derekc5555]

Either way, I wish a long and happy life together to both of you. [/QUOTE]

Thank you very much Willow

[Phillips]

My wife and I came to a compromise that if we ever renew vows down the road, I will be kilted for the event. In hind-site I am glad I didn't kilt up because everyone would focus on me as its not normal in this part of the world to do so. I'm sure in Scotland its not a second thought to see a kilted groom, but as I'm American I didn't want to distract from my wife's dress that day.
P.S. Congrats on getting married!

[Derekc5555]

Either way, I still get scotch and steak!!
...and thank you Phillips.

[capthmorgan]

Marriage has the potential of being a life-long commitment! There's a good chance that your wife has spent years dreaming of what her wedding would be like, while for most men, the outfit is more of an afterthought. If you can get her unwavering support, of course, go for it. But if you're requiring a compromise on her most dreamed of day of days, this will be a foolish hill to die on. You don't want her to have negative associations with kilts (or you!) for the rest of your life. Of course you want to have a voice in the planning of the wedding. But don't risk the relationship with an ultimatum. Make your pitch and explain to her why it would be important to you, but don't deprive her of veto power. Your wife wants pictures and memories that she can be proud of. There will be a lifetime of Burns Suppers, Ren Fairs, and the like where you can wear your kilt.

But of course, in any event, all the best in your wedding and your marriage.

Patrick

[ibrew4u]

Your job is to show up, on time, and make her the focus of the event.
If you ruin this day for her (in her mind), you will pay for it the rest of your life.
Go kilted to your bachelor party. Worship her till death do you part.

29 years of partnership, and counting...

[Litany of the Highlands]

I have just finished (a couple weeks or so ago) getting my kilt together for my wedding next Thursday, which is in the US. I'm taking some pictures for the board today to help with accessory choices, you should check them out.

Luckily, my fiancée was fully on-board with me going kilted, I'm Scottish (born and raised) and she's seen me wear them before, doesn't feel like it will upstage her/doesn't really care for that wedding philosophy of "all eyes on me" either. My MoL was probably hoping I wouldn't go kilted, but since I'm paying for 95% of the shindig, I stood firm on doing something I wanted.

My advice to you is this, weddings are different today than they used to be. It should not be some back-seat ride for you. I don't agree your job is to turn up and do what you're told. So to get her to warm to the idea, I'd try to get her to see your wedding isn't a day long Disney movie, it's the beginning of a life-long joint venture for both of you. You should both remember the day with happy and lasting memories. So the two questions are: Is it absolutely vital - for her to enjoy the day - that you wear a suit? Does she want you to remember the wedding day with a lasting happy memory (which is to say - as something more than a bride centred spectacle)? I'm sure you'll have fun with a suit, but I'm also sure (since you're thinking about going kilted) that you'll have more fun and really remember the day as a special occasion if you're kilted. A kilted groom + groomsmen at a wedding in the US will be so memorable people will recall it vividly for years to come.

[Macman]

One option, depending on HER plans, would be to go Saxon dress for the wedding itself, then the two of you change into tartan garments for the reception. You might be able to get her to go along with this idea, and maybe even have you piped in as a couple. But remember, this is her day, and you want her to remember it fondly.

This was how my first wedding worked 40 years ago. I wore a cream formal jacket, dark green formal trousers, a dark green velvet bow tie, a light green frilly shirt, and dark green patent leather shoes for the wedding. I changed into my kilt prior to the reception. Everybody was happy!

[Really a McQueen]

... I wore a cream formal jacket, dark green formal trousers, a dark green velvet bow tie, a light green frilly shirt, and dark green patent leather shoes for the wedding.

And if you had not, the color scheme might have been changed to black and blue.

[Prisoneratvillage]

I am going to agree with Litany of the Highlands on this. When I got married the occasion was used by my mother and MIL as a way
to repay social obligations, and became less about the two of us. As Litany said marriage is different today, If the groom is ponying up
half the money, I think it speaks volumes as to what the groom can do. So I still say he should have his day in the sun too.

[derosa]

Best wedding advice I feel I was ever given was to just agree with whatever the bride says unless she is being coerced by either mother into something she doesn't want, then you put your foot down and refuse to allow something. In exchange you get to unwrap the prettiest package at the wedding. Personally I wanted to be kilted but she's allergic to wool and worried about a rash on the wedding day.