A quandry: woman at wedding with camera

[Verlyn]

Alan, I think you handled in the best way you could. The wedding party thought the kilt was great and that's enough. I'm sure anyone else that saw the goings on say the complete fool she was making of herself. My daughter's wedding is coming up and she was unsure of letting her intended have kilts because of how her future mother-in-law would react (she likes the kilts, but in her pea brain, they're "costumes" for ren faires and thinks that's the way it is no matter how often we explain, no its an ethnic thing, not costume). When she told her fiance that if his father would wear one on, she would agree, you should have seen future MIL reaction. Especially when future FIL said that would be cool. Now, she'll either grumble and go along or make a complete fool of herself while the rest of both families are dressed to the nines in kilts; me, my sons, the groom, his brother and father and the grooms me and my brother-in-law. We've told my daughter if she wants to show up in ren faire garb and make a fool of herself, let her. She'll embarass herself and maybe finally learn that kilts are clothing, not costumes and we're wearing them as a full formal suit for the day, not a costume. Fortunately for me, USAKilts carries the tartan for my boys and me in a price range that won't hurt (much).

Shultz, what is that gorgeous tartan in your avitar?

[Schultz]

Shultz, what is that gorgeous tartan in your avitar?

That would be what's called the Double Davidson.

I'm taking very much the approach that my future mother-in-law will just end up making an *** out herself if she decides to perform on our wedding day. For a woman who has an almost paranoiac concern of what other people think of her, though, we think she'll behave at least civilly.

[Shay]

she likes the kilts, but in her pea brain, they're "costumes" for ren faires and thinks that's the way it is no matter how often we explain, no its an ethnic thing, not costume

What nationality is her family? I'm just curious, maybe you can find something she could identify with and not be so nervous.

[macwilkin]

What nationality is her family? I'm just curious, maybe you can find something she could identify with and not be so nervous.

Or, if the state you live in has a state tartan, show her that and explain that the concept of US state (and Candian provincial) tartans is to provide a tartan that every person in that state can wear, and not just those of Scottish heritage.

Cheers,

Todd

[Verlyn]

What nationality is her family? I'm just curious, maybe you can find something she could identify with and not be so nervous.

The nervousness is on my daughter's part that the future MIL will show up in Ren Faire garb and not realize LIKE EVERYONE ELSE does that it is a formal affair. Her family is a mix and my daughter's fiance found a scot connection through research and got interested in wearing a kilt through the ren faire. My BIL and I have been educating the lad and he's really interested in getting his family tartan (uncommon and hard to find), but his mother is still wrapped around the axel of ren faire theme and not the fact that we're doing this formal and as an ethnic bent. The kids get it, we get it his father gets it, she's just out there.

[bubba]

Suggest she write to Sir Sean Connery and tell HIM it's a renn faire costume.

[Verlyn]

Okay Bubba, you almost made me spit water all over the monitor.

We took her to the local Celtic festival in June and its sponsored by and on the sites of the Ren Faire. Yep, she showed up in ren faire garb and wondered why none of the women were in garb and those of us that wore kilts wore them with polo shirts and casual shoes. Even though my daughter, her son, myself and one of the vendors explained to her SEVERAL times its an ETHNIC festival, not Ren Faire.

Maybe someday, she'll get a clue.