Wives' objections...kind of long...

[MacSimoin]

Now I don't really know these folks well enough to have an opinion, but it seems that maybe kilt wearing isn't the only problem there. Maybe communication is too? I think the kilt is just the most obvious symbol of a bigger problem.

I wonder if any of you folks here currently have, or have had a problem with a spouse or family like my new friend J's, and how did you cope?

Zardoz,

These first two statements seem to be far too assuming for any of us to automatically pose our own opinions on your new friend's "predicament". Unlike Shay, I'm not going to provide you with an immediate armchair analysis on someone's marriage based on a brief description of a situation I had no part in---I don't know these people, I wasn't there at the fest and, I don't even know you. However, did you stop to think that maybe J's other half simply doesn't like kilts? Contrary to what seems to be a foregone conclusion in these forums, there are plenty of women out there who simply do not like men in kilts. Of course, there's lots of guys who don't like it either, but that's beside the point. If you like your new friends, just be patient and wait until the friendship develops over time. If and when it does, and you've gotten to know them much better than you do now, that may be the more appropriate time and place for you to get the answers to the questions you've posed here. Don't misundertand me, please: Asking for advice or opinions here on what you've witnessed or experienced with J is not wrong; I'd just venture to avoid any untoward assumptions on J's wife and/or his marriage.

As far as people in my own family, no real issues exist except that though I wish I could get my father to wear a kilt for my wedding, he simply will not.
And though he finds most men in kilts rather amusing, he's actually looking forward to seeing me kilted at my wedding this October. He knows how much designing our family's tartan has meant to me, and he knows all the hard work I put into it; so, he's accepting of me being kilted at best. Again, not everyone likes kilts. I can live with that.