Quote Originally Posted by Riverkilt
...But no way advice from this most wonderful board is gonna help since its based on almost total lack of knowledge of what's happening...and that includes my advice. Worse, what we do "know" is based on near gossip...
Exactly, and that includes my own suggestions.

Seems there's a lot of advice being offered but in my opinion (though the method was a bit blunt), ronstew hit the nail on the head: It's none of our business (your friend's marriage). Most of us probably know someone whose relationship and/or marriage was undeservedly tested and strained because of wayward hearsay, badly-timed comments and/or malicious gossip that eventually snowballed into internal strife between the partners concerned; that's a good reason to keep your friends close and your enemies closer.

Best of luck, Zardoz, whatever you choose to do.