mean mother in law(to be)

[Abax]

I have experience with an intelligent yet challenging mother-in-law, so I might be able to help by relating my experience.

would it be impolite to wear a kilt in her house since i will be her guest while im there

Yes, it's her house. In her house, she's right and you're wrong. You can't win any arguments on her turf - even if you're right. I think Cavscout's idea of wearing a kilt at a place away from her home is a really good idea though.

and how do i get her to accept the fact that im wearing a viable clothing choice and not crossdressing?

You can't make her do anything. She may change her opinion of her own accord, but you are her least likely source of insight. Based on the behavior you describe, you may be the bad man stealing her daughter. Or she may simply be challenging you to see how you hold up under pressure.

Others have hinted at this, but the most important thing is the lady you want to marry. If she's the right lady, differences between you and her mother won't matter if you treat her mother with respect.

When I first met my wife's mother more than 20 years ago, I was immediately scared out of my wits that my wife-to-be might turn out to be like her mother. To my great joy, my wife is her own person and can disagree with her parents *and* allow me the same privilege.

You should talk to your lady and find out what *she* thinks about wearing a kilt and how she would handle differences between you and her mother. That will tell you what you need to know.

Abax