Should you feel insulted?

**emolas** · 17th April 08, 02:28 AM

I always treat all comments as a compliment and thank them for noticing. As mentioned before, this deflates an intended insult and makes the insulter look foolish. Unless the person is actually complimenting me and is just ignorant of the proper name, then I will educate them.

On this same subject, I have to share an experience this last weekend:
I was at my nephew's birthday party (5 years old) and I walked in wearing a Royal Stewart kilt. This little girl who couldn't have been more than 4 looked at me with wonder in her eyes and said "Wow, what a boodiful dress!!". I think that is one of the best compliments I have ever received.

I explained to her that it was a special kind of dress that some men wear and it's called a kilt and thanked her for the compliment.

**macwilkin** · 17th April 08, 04:11 AM

Originally Posted by emolas

I always treat all comments as a compliment and thank them for noticing. As mentioned before, this deflates an intended insult and makes the insulter look foolish. Unless the person is actually complimenting me and is just ignorant of the proper name, then I will educate them.

On this same subject, I have to share an experience this last weekend:
I was at my nephew's birthday party (5 years old) and I walked in wearing a Royal Stewart kilt. This little girl who couldn't have been more than 4 looked at me with wonder in her eyes and said "Wow, what a boodiful dress!!". I think that is one of the best compliments I have ever received.

I explained to her that it was a special kind of dress that some men wear and it's called a kilt and thanked her for the compliment.

Well played.

Todd

**Jerry** · 17th April 08, 05:09 AM

I've only had it happen once, and that was a waitress in a Cracker Barrel restaurant we stopped in for supper on the way home from the Richmond Highland Games several years ago. As my wife and I walked past her, she said, I love your skirt. It was one of my first times out in a kilt, and I was a bit nervous, so I didn't realize exactly what she had said until we were seated. Well, it turned out she was our waitress, and as she took our drink orders, she asked why I was wearing the skirt today. I explained, it was a kilt, and we had been at the Richmond Highland Games all day. She asked if there were a lot of men in kilts there, and I told her there were hundreds. She said she was really sorry she had missed it, so I informed her that it was just the first day and it would be going on all day on tomorrow too. She said that she was off on Sunday and she and some of her friends were probably going to check it out. I don't know whether she did or not, but it was really nice, me being a 60 year old balding and slightly overweight old fart having a pleasant exchange with a good looking 18 to 20 year old girl.

**Roan Carter** · 17th April 08, 09:41 AM

Originally Posted by walkerk

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"The falda escocesa?..."

I just learned those words while studying Spanish at my school. It sounds really neat to say, doesn't it?

**Galb** · 17th April 08, 09:41 AM

I would respond with this:

"Do you know why these are called kilts? Because many a man has been "kilt" for calling it a dress or skirt. Remember that."

**Nick the DSM** · 17th April 08, 02:44 PM

i told somebody that, he had fear in his eyes for the rest of the day.

**Tommie** · 17th April 08, 03:03 PM

Originally Posted by Galb

I would respond with this:

"Do you know why these are called kilts? Because many a man has been "kilt" for calling it a dress or skirt. Remember that."

To each his own but I would never use that response,and I have noticed several members say that.
You may be opening yourself up to something that might turn ugly real quick.
Why throw fuel on a fire thats not yet lit.

**Bugbear** · 17th April 08, 03:17 PM

I do know several people who are insulted or offended by other peoples clothing. I'm not talking about intentionally offencive clothing either. I know some one who gets angry when he sees someone wearing cowboy boots, for example.

Like I said way way back there, there are people going around looking for things to be insulted by and so on...

**sharpdressedscot** · 17th April 08, 03:21 PM

Offended because they wore cowboy boots and they weren't cowboys?

Some people...

**Bugbear** · 17th April 08, 03:28 PM

Originally Posted by sharpdressedscot

Offended because they wore cowboy boots and they weren't cowboys?

Some people...

Don't matter if the person wearing them is a cowboy or not, he gets angry over it. There's lots of people like that.

In fact there are people who get offended when they see a guy wearing a kilt, or wearing "the wrong shoes or shirt" with a kilt. There's plenty of threads on that.