Wedding Attire

**McMurdo** · 5th August 08, 06:21 AM

I'm taking my mod hat off for this and will not comment in an official way on this thread henceforth.

I remember when there were no Casual Fridays at work, now it seems that Casual Fridays have invaded the rest of the week, as well as most people's general attitude. I for one have been waiting for the pendulum to swing back, however given the state of things I will not hold my breath.

I may be old fashioned but I think that if I am going to a wedding a funeral or other similar occasion then I dress for it, this means a polo shirt and jeans would not do it even when I wore jeans. As I see it, this comes down to a simple mater of respect for your host be they the couple getting married or the mourning family. I would not for example show up to a formal function wearing a Blue suit, before the kilt bug really bit I went out and bought a tuxedo to wear to formal functions. I also have a closet full of suits that I can wear to any number of events if I so choose and be dressed appropriately. That includes going to work I wore a suit to work for a good twenty years every day regardless of the weather and I think that for a function I owe the host nothing less.

To get back to the original poster, I'm glad you've decided to shy away from the Belted Plaid it to my mind does have it's place but that place is not a wedding. I realize that as a younger man you may not have the kind of wardrobe some of us do, however we were all in your place at one time or another. If it were me I'd go out and get the best Argyll Jacket I could, you really can find some good prices out there if you look. If it were me I might go with a look like this

or this

or something like this

You would of course look like you belonged at the wedding and would not stand out as you would in a belted plaid and you would be showing respect to your hosts by not making a mockery of their day.

**davedove** · 5th August 08, 07:15 AM

I like those looks Glen, but in a lot of places you would still stand out as being over dressed, even at a wedding. To me, showing up dressed obviously better than everyone else also shows some disrespect, even if you think it ought to be appropriate. Others could feel you were trying to show yourself as better than them. It's a sad but true situation. Like you said, maybe the pendulum will swing back the other way some day.

I went to a wedding a couple of years back and wore a sport jacket and tie. I was still dressed better than 90% of the people there. Mostly it was slacks and a few ties, but there were also many t-shirts. And this was a wedding in a church with the weddings party in tuxedos.

My thought is to dress well, but not so well that you stand out from everyone else. That's the bride's and maybe the groom's job.

**Panache** · 5th August 08, 07:28 AM

If you already have a presentable kilt, hose, flashes, and sporran, and I'm going to assume you have a dress shirt and a tie, all you need is a jacket.

Glen showed us a wonderful series of great attire for a wedding guest the only thing you need to follow in his footsteps is a jacket. Check out your thrift stores for a tweed one. Or perhaps look at sport coats at Target (there seem to be quite a few on Clearance at this time).

A tailor / Seamstress should be able to fashion a sporran cut away and make your coat a kilt jacket for about $40.

If you have a little good luck you might find a matching jacket and vest for an even better look.

Check out some of my beloved F-H.C.A.G.' s threads on jacket and vest conversions to give you an idea of what you are shooting for.

Cheers

Jamie

**berserkbishop** · 5th August 08, 08:53 AM

Originally Posted by davedove

I like those looks Glen, but in a lot of places you would still stand out as being over dressed, even at a wedding. To me, showing up dressed obviously better than everyone else also shows some disrespect, even if you think it ought to be appropriate. Others could feel you were trying to show yourself as better than them. It's a sad but true situation. Like you said, maybe the pendulum will swing back the other way some day.

I went to a wedding a couple of years back and wore a sport jacket and tie. I was still dressed better than 90% of the people there. Mostly it was slacks and a few ties, but there were also many t-shirts. And this was a wedding in a church with the weddings party in tuxedos.

My thought is to dress well, but not so well that you stand out from everyone else. That's the bride's and maybe the groom's job.

I second that. I know what it is like to be overdressed and feel uncomfortable because everyone else had not dressed for the occasion.

BB

**Panache** · 5th August 08, 09:00 AM

Originally Posted by berserkbishop

I second that. I know what it is like to be overdressed and feel uncomfortable because everyone else had not dressed for the occasion.

I have been in many situations where in comparison to others I have been overdressed, oddly enough I have never felt the least uncomfortable about it!

I am me.

I am a gentleman.

As such I dress in a certain manner. It isn't at all unusal for me to wear a jacket or tie normally therefore why would I dress down for a special occasion?

Cheers

Jamie

**McMurdo** · 5th August 08, 11:05 AM

Originally Posted by davedove

I like those looks Glen, but in a lot of places you would still stand out as being over dressed, even at a wedding. To me, showing up dressed obviously better than everyone else also shows some disrespect, even if you think it ought to be appropriate. Others could feel you were trying to show yourself as better than them. It's a sad but true situation. Like you said, maybe the pendulum will swing back the other way some day.

I do not look down on people because of what they are wearing, I try my best to look presentable wherever I go and to my mind if I am being invited to a wedding or similar function then those outfits would all work and would always be appropriate for a function like that, and the people that know me know I'm not looking down on them.

I went to a wedding a couple of years back and wore a sport jacket and tie. I was still dressed better than 90% of the people there. Mostly it was slacks and a few ties, but there were also many t-shirts. And this was a wedding in a church with the weddings party in tuxedos.

I do not feel the need to dress like a slob because others do.

My thought is to dress well, but not so well that you stand out from everyone else. That's the bride's and maybe the groom's job.

I really don't think that dressing to a Semi Formal level at a wedding would put you in a position that you stood out from everyone else, a couple of years ago I was at my brothers wedding, the one I bought the tuxedo for, it was a very hot day in the midle of the summer, the Groomsmen all wore our tuxedos all, the bridesmaids wore their gowns and for the most part the guests wore suits, and gowns we all did this out of respect for the Bride and Groom and their families.