Quote Originally Posted by Alan H View Post
Yeti, there sure is a lot of ranting about what is and is not "proper" in this thread.

On our own forum, not so long ago, there is a picture thread written by the father of the bride. The groom had orange hair (I think) several tattoos and wore a black utilikilt, a black rock & roll band t-shirt, and black assault boots. At a wedding like that, if Yeti wanted to wear a Great Kilt, what's the problem?

I've been to a Ren Faire-type wedding where the bride a groom and most of the guestswore "Faire-garb". If it's a wedding like that, then what's the problem with a Great Kilt?

I've been to a "pagan handfasting"...and while I have no comment on the religious implications of such the guests wore everything from Ren Faire garb to contemporary semi-casual clothes. The Great Kilt would have been just fine at this ceremony, and in fact the argyll with waistcoat would have stood out.

So while some of us have more traditional tastes, we should remember that not EVERYBODY has the same taste. "Every man should own a suit". ??? I don't own a suit. I own two-three sportcoats/slacks combinations and now a tweed kilt jacket (another one in the works) but I do not own a "suit". I have no need to wear one, here in California.

Yeti, I would tell the bride and groom what you had planned and show them a picture of something similar and then ask their opinion. IF you get an outright "no", or if you pick up negative "vibes", then opt for something more conservative, as best you can for the dollars in your bank account. Teaming up your Stillwaterkilt with a white shirt and tie, nice kilt hose, a nice belt and dress shoes can hardly offend anyone, even at a more traditional affair. Nonetheless, it all depends on the nature of the people getting married and the ceremony they have planned.

I would recommend ignoring "THE RULES" as espoused by whomever, and instead of that, focus not on "WHAT IS PROPER" but instead, focus on what a real gentleman would do... namely treating the people with whom you are interacting with kindness and respect. That means asking your friends some questions, listening to the answers, and dressing appropriately for *THEIR* day.
Well said Alan. You expressed my thoughts and frustrations in a clear, concise, unoffensive manner that saved me the trouble.


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