The Only Kiltie at a Wedding

**Freelancer** · 2nd September 08, 04:32 PM

I'll be attending a wedding next month as a guest and I'd like to wear my tank and PC. It's my wife's cousin and I would definitely be the only kiltie in attendence. I've read posts stating that since it's really the Brides day and all attention should go to her, it might not be a good move. Has anyone attended a wedding as the only kilted guest? Was their negative feedback? Please share your experience.

**Splinty** · 2nd September 08, 04:39 PM

I would just ask the bride, or have your wife ask her (even better, she can smooth the way). I was maid of honor at my best friend's wedding and she respectfully asked my friend Paul not to wear his kilt. He would've been the only kiltie in attendance if he had worn it, and her family is sorta.. weird... about that kind of thing (crazy I know).

She'll either ask you not to, or be okay with it. I would definitely respect her wishes on it. It is her day.

She might be thrilled. If I was getting married, I would think it a compliment that one of the guests would get so dressed up.

**ardchoille** · 2nd September 08, 04:42 PM

Originally Posted by Splinty

I would just ask the bride, or have your wife ask her (even better, she can smooth the way).

She'll either ask you not to, or be okay with it. I would definitely respect her wishes on it. It is her day.

Agreed.

I have asked and found that the bride and groom wanted me to be kilted.

**mbhandy** · 2nd September 08, 04:51 PM

I have gone to weddings & Funerals Kilted and the only comment I got was why didn't I bring the pipes. My reply was I don't play the pipes only Harmonicas.

MrBill

**McFarkus** · 2nd September 08, 04:56 PM

Hey, if they want you to be kilted, I'd do it!

**Rex_Tremende** · 2nd September 08, 05:01 PM

I leaned toward un-kilted when the guest/volunteer is part of the crew, but I don't think that brides ought to have a say as to what guests would wear beyond setting the tone: resort casual, jeans and gingham, black tie, and so forth. I pity the groom whose bride insists on that much control. It's up to the guests to choose attire appropriate to the occasion, and there are certainly many ways to wear a kilt (any number of which can be made low-key). Just don't show up looking as though you were waiting for your cue to pipe the wedding party in.

Upstaging the bride has a lot to do with one's behavior. If you wear a kilt, you may draw attention, but how you react to it is what's important. It is very easy to downplay your own wardrobe and deflect attention to the bridal couple. Be a wall flower. Decline invitations to demonstrate highland dance, especially after four glasses of that zippy-trippy wedding punch. Say, "I'm glad you like it. Now please remove your hand from my fuzzy tassels."

Just my 2¢,
Rex.

**Panache** · 2nd September 08, 05:04 PM

Originally Posted by Rex_Tremende

...Just my 2¢,

Rex,

It may be your two cents to you, but your advice here (as usual) is worth its weight in gold!

Cheers

Jamie

**robthehiker** · 2nd September 08, 05:22 PM

Originally Posted by Rex_Tremende

Say, "I'm glad you like it. Now please remove your hand from my fuzzy tassels."

Well don't say that if it's the bride. It's her day after all.

Personally I go back and forth on this one. I didn't wear a kilt to the last wedding I attended (a coworker) but another coworker who's getting married in October said "well you're wearing one to mine!". Generally I think I'd ask the bride or groom. However if I was kilted all the time I'd just wear it.

**McMurdo** · 2nd September 08, 05:26 PM

I would say that a Prince Charlie would be far too formal as a guest at a wedding. Remember that the Prince Charlie is akin to a Tuxedo, so ask yourself would I wear a tuxedo to a wedding if I were a guest? My answer would be no. Therefore if I were going to wear a kilt to a wedding I would do so with an Argyll or Braemer jacket as these are more in-line with a suit, in this way you will blend in much more with the other guests.

**Tattoo Bradley** · 2nd September 08, 07:42 PM

Originally Posted by Rex_Tremende

I leaned toward un-kilted when the guest/volunteer is part of the crew, but I don't think that brides ought to have a say as to what guests would wear beyond setting the tone: resort casual, jeans and gingham, black tie, and so forth. I pity the groom whose bride insists on that much control. It's up to the guests to choose attire appropriate to the occasion, and there are certainly many ways to wear a kilt (any number of which can be made low-key). Just don't show up looking as though you were waiting for your cue to pipe the wedding party in.

Upstaging the bride has a lot to do with one's behavior. If you wear a kilt, you may draw attention, but how you react to it is what's important. It is very easy to downplay your own wardrobe and deflect attention to the bridal couple. Be a wall flower. Decline invitations to demonstrate highland dance, especially after four glasses of that zippy-trippy wedding punch. Say, "I'm glad you like it. Now please remove your hand from my fuzzy tassels."

Just my 2¢,
Rex.

Originally Posted by Panache

Rex,

It may be your two cents to you, but your advice here (as usual) is worth its weight in gold!

Cheers

Jamie

Absolutely!

I have, on a couple of occasions actually, been the only kilted guest at a waiting. I've never received anything other than compliments. I did exactly as Rex has suggested here and dressed tastefully and in-line with the other guests (argyll jacket in either barethea or tweed depending on time of day/evening.)