first time out kilted / almost get evicted for it

[sathor]

It was one of those mornings, I had yet to don the kilt and go outside in it, but anyways, my 4 year old had a field trip and needed to be at school early, and the baby had to be at the doc's about an hour after the field trip ended. Because of the weather, I did a lot of laundry and made sure I grabbed a pair of shorts for me and then made sure I warm clothes for the kids. After they were ready, and time was being cut close, the zipper pull broke off the shorts, and not having time to go digging for shorts, I grabbed the kilt.

On the pluses, I had 2 red heads that stopped me to talk to me, and another girl that was happy that I went with a solid black kilt (she hates plaid) and told me she is 75% Scottish. I even walked past a guy that was dressed as you would expect to see a senior citizen from Scotland dressed, pants no kilt, but the plaid shirt with the a hat I can only say made me think Brittan. He gave an approving look, which while I liked the redheads, I am married, to I have to say the Scotsman was the real point that made it really feel great.

(I do like how the kilt is as long as some of my shorts, so aside from the lack of pockets, didn't feel all that different than what I am used to)

Now the downside, I showed up to work and the owner (my mom no less) freaks out. she said "Do you always dress like an *** or just around my store?" to which I said "Do you have a problem with me wearing a Kilt?" and she said "hell yea when you are representing my store. What the hell is wrong with you?"

She didn't even bother to say bye to me or her grandson when she took my grandma home from the mall.

She calls my cell phone a few hours later, and spends another five minutes chewing me out, claiming that I am trying to drive her out of business, and that if I ever wear a Kilt again I won't be working for her anymore. (I only work about 2 hours a day, doing the bank run and such) She also pretty much threatened to evict me from the house I am renting (from my grandma) because it is too much stress to have me around crossdressing. She then made a point to say that "there is no way in hell I'll let you dress my grandson in a dress and turn him into a fag" She then started saying how I was picked on in school because my dad was crazy and I said she was the one that said it the most and hung up. Haven't talked to her since, something about the word 'kilt' doesn't register with her for some reason. I say kilt, she says dress.

I was in pretty much the same outfit as the pic, except I now have a kilt belt and sporran hanger.

[Rex_Tremende]

she said "Do you always dress like an ***...?

Always? If she doesn't like anything you wear, you might as well wear what you want. Something tells me this isn't about the kilt, but I guess she just had something she needed to say, and the kilt gave her the opportunity.

Good luck with working that out.

Regards,
Rex, following the "no advice" rule.

[Brewboy]

My parents don't like the kilt either. My father assumes that when I wear it, everyone is laughing at me, and by extension, him. They've asked me not to wear it when they visit me.

I am sometimes amazed how offended people get by a piece of clothing.

[george7]

Some things aren't worth losing relationships. If this means you'll have to wear your kilt less or in secret in order to have a good relationship with your grandmother, it might be worth it. We won't think anything less of you. The kilt looks good, though.

[Tim Little]

I hope you don't take offense, but it sounds like your mom has her own issues to work out -- and not just about your wearing a kilt. As her son this won't be easy going for you, but she'll need your compassion and support.

In the meantime, take your positive kilt-wearing experiences to heart and draw on them. More power to you!

[sathor]

I am sometimes amazed how offended people get by a piece of clothing.

If I had gone out regimental and was walking around proving such, then I could see her point, well part of it anyways. My grandma in SC finds it funny too, but she likes her Irish heritage and used to play hammered dulcimer in a 'band' that played celtic/irish/scottish music.

I think what might underlie it is that I become many ways more like my dad that died 5 years ago every day. She made that a messy divorce, she made a point to put him down to me every chance she could, they divorced when I was about 10 and even after I graduated HS she made sure she said something about him making it to my sisters college graduation and not making it to my HS one, which was a week or so apart while he barely made a living in SC, her graduation was in IL, and I lived in OH. The first thing she said when he died was 'You need to be nicer to me now because I'm all you have left"

That or she is just really crazy.

[sathor]

Some things aren't worth losing relationships. If this means you'll have to wear your kilt less or in secret in order to have a good relationship with your grandmother, it might be worth it. We won't think anything less of you. The kilt looks good, though.

It's my mom, not grandmother. Her mom didn't seem to mind, just asked me not to start doing the Jig. My other grandmother loves that I have a kilt.

Its not much of a relationship anyways, she keeps screwing me over in various ways all the time, I'd miss the extra income, but not all that much.

[Sionnach]

Saddens me to hear your story. It is good to have this forum for support when things come up. Like Rex mentioned, sounds like there might be other issues ad being kilted just opened the door.

all the best, may things work out for you
your kilted bro aye.

[Computergeek]

sorry to hear that your first experience was not a positive one, just remember that you always have to fall back on for support. by the by, the kilt looks good

[GreenDragon]

Wow. Just WOW. That is just ridiculous. i'm glad my parents just laugh it off with a "Oh My God. I can't believe he's actually in a kilt." shake of their head whenever they see me in mine. For yours to freak out like that is just plain rude.