Quote Originally Posted by Tetley View Post
Should anyone tell me that they would rather I did not wear a kilt, or anything else, to visit them or see them or attend one of their functions, well I would interpret that as them not wishing to have me visit them. As being unable to accept me as I am. To me there are no shades of grey here, either you accept me as I am or not at all.

Mark
...well, to expand a bit on the relationship with these particular friends...I've noticed a very interesting effect going on. They are well aware that I wear the kilt to other events...some of these events are connected with other aspects of my life and involve a lot of folks who run in, shall we say, somewhat different social circles...so I'm wearing a kilt to the opening of a new wing of a museum but I'm wearing jeans to their barbeque. There appears to be a bit of jealousy creeping into their reactions to this...it's like they now assume that I'm dressing down to come to their events. I try to be a nice guy but do I enjoy this wee bit of needling that seems to have evolved here. I'm getting them to reconsider their attitude and I don't have to do or say a blessed thing.

As a professional photographer, I've made a halfway decent living out of shades of grey. Don't know if I can apply good old Ansel Adams' (another AA!) Zone System to life but I can say that mine would be a lot less interesting without the shades of grey. I could think of nothing more boring than sitting around with a whole bunch of people who thought identically to me and I'd be out a lot of great relationships that have made me laugh and broken my heart If I ruled out the shades of grey.

Maybe I look at the kilt as a sort of Rorschach Test and find the way that everyone reacts to it to be interesting.


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