There's a good bit of profound wisdom in these posts, even though some of them seem contradictory.

Your mother seems to have no respect for your right to set limits on what behavior you will tolerate in other people. I like TheKiltedCoder's suggestion but I would reverse the order: if your mother graciously accepts your being kilted at Thanksgiving you will agree to be breeched at Christmas. It is your mother who needs to establish her good faith; at this point it appears that her main interest is only control.

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