A little ticked....

[sathor]

When in Rome... or in other words, if neutral ground, then wear what you want. If they don't like it, they can leave. If someone (other than spouse, even sometimes then) makes a promise that you will do something without checking with you first, then they must learn that they don't have a say, and the issue of the kilt wearing is her problem, not yours. If she asked, you might have been different, but she made a promise that she is powerless to keep, and she must learn that by whatever means necessary. (Kilted means really)

[McELT]

So many responses with good advice, yet so many disagree with each other.

It all comes back to you and what's important to you and your family. And by family, I would worry about my wife's opinion first, but then no others.

As to how I would handle this situation, I would tell my mother that I plan on attending the event kilted. I would let her know that, otherwise, I would not be attending.

Although your mother may be trying to avoid a family fight at the holiday meal, she is trying to do so by exerting her authority over you.

Good luck in dealing with this issue. I suspect there are more underlying issues at play here.

[funlvnman]

Go to dinner, wear the kilt, tell them to mind their own business. Make no reaction to negative comments. Just stare at them expressionless. It'll drive them crazy.


And, eats lots of turkey.