How to talk her into it?

**Kerr the Walker** · 6th April 09, 07:16 AM

So my girlfriend and I have recently begun discussing the topic of a wedding. I haven't proposed yet, but she knows it's coming. I've brought up my plans for being hitched in a kilt and she currently doesn't want anything to do with it. Her argument (which I find weak) is that I wear it all the time already. She thinks this would cheapen my wearing it for our wedding for some reason. I personally think this argument doesn't hold water, but I haven't figured out a polite way to tell her I think it's a load of manure and have just been saying "We'll need to talk about this more later."

Here's my question: How do I convince her that me being kilted for our wedding is a good idea? Idealy and significantly less likely, how do I make it seem like it was her idea so we all end up with smiles?

Thanks in advance.

**davedove** · 6th April 09, 07:20 AM

Even if you wear a kilt all the time, I highly doubt if you wear it all decked out formally on a regular basis. Show her some pictures of the full rig and good it looks. She probably wants her wedding to be special, so you should look special as well.

**Jock Scot** · 6th April 09, 07:27 AM

Now is the time for her to present you with the kilt of a life time. You know the thing, the best 16oz family tartan (her choice of course!), hand made to the best bespoke specifications and there you go-----job done!

**Kerr the Walker** · 6th April 09, 07:28 AM

Originally Posted by davedove

Even if you wear a kilt all the time, I highly doubt if you wear it all decked out formally on a regular basis. Show her some pictures of the full rig and good it looks. She probably wants her wedding to be special, so you should look special as well.

The part I don't get is we were at her cousin's wedding last summer and he had on the full rig in all its glory. She even said she thought it looked good. I guess I'll keep at it with the pics and see if I can change her mind.

**Colonel MacNeal** · 6th April 09, 07:30 AM

If she doesn't dig it, then maybe you've got the wrong girl.

**Jock Scot** · 6th April 09, 07:32 AM

Originally Posted by Kerr the Walker

The part I don't get is we were at her cousin's wedding last summer and he had on the full rig in all its glory. She even said she thought it looked good. I guess I'll keep at it with the pics and see if I can change her mind.

Aha, there is your problem! Her cousin has already done it! Your lady wants to lead, not follow.

**timseh** · 6th April 09, 07:37 AM

I don't understand the reluctance... If the alternatives are fully decked out in Kilt, PC and Fly Plaid, or a boring old Tux, then I'd think the kilt would win hands down every time.

**Colonel MacNeal** · 6th April 09, 07:40 AM

Originally Posted by timseh

I don't understand the reluctance... If the alternatives are fully decked out in Kilt, PC and Fly Plaid, or a boring old Tux, then I'd think the kilt would win hands down every time.

I think you may have hit on it. The kilts may take attention away from the bride and all her glory. (This is also the reason for most hideous bridesmaid dresses.)

**McClef** · 6th April 09, 07:47 AM

Tell her if she thought it good enough for her cousin then it should be even more so for you.

And that it's not only the Bride who wants to look their best.

**Rex_Tremende** · 6th April 09, 07:48 AM

"Darling, I know you've had a vision of what your wedding would be like some day for as long as you've had an imagination. I, too, would like it to be a special day for the both of us to remember forever. I want our marriage to be the one that helps us realize both our individual and mutual dreams. Yes, I wear my kilts regularly. In the future, when I wear the one from our wedding day, I will be reminded of our vows and love for each other. For me, it will be like wearing your embrace wherever I go."

Good luck,
Rex.