Kicked out of work for wearing kilt

[Red Stag]

Scotcop,
Maybe you should remind your supervisor that Jesus didn't wear pants. If your bookstore sells any Celtic stuff I would have some of your kilted friends come into shop, bring it all up to the register and then ask if this was the place where a guy wasn't allowed to wear a tartan kilt on National Tartan Day and when they said "yes", leave everything at the register and then walk away. Since you had permission from a higher up than you should have stood your ground. I wore my tan Utilikilt to work Tuesday as it fits in with our dress code but I wore a shirt and tartan tie. Usually the shirt and tie is for salaried managers so a lot of customers came to me to complain about stuff. None of the "real" managers said anything to me about it. I had one old lady who works there who is known to be a bully and tattle tail make a snide remark about me dressing up when I wasn't a manager and I just ignored the old crone.

[-B-]

A lot of bad advice

One you should have never caved in but told the manager to go seek counsel with his superiors as you have been expressly allowed to were what you did. Furthermore you should have reported the tirate to the manager and demanded an apology both written and public from the offender. failure to do so would require you to report this incident to the regional manager, the companies HR department and the state labor board. This is precisely what there are harassment policy and laws you were harassed and use the term a lot in all of your discussions.

[Nighthawk]

A lot of bad advice

One you should have never caved in but told the manager to go seek counsel with his superiors as you have been expressly allowed to were what you did. Furthermore you should have reported the tirate to the manager and demanded an apology both written and public from the offender. failure to do so would require you to report this incident to the regional manager, the companies HR department and the state labor board. This is precisely what there are harassment policy and laws you were harassed and use the term a lot in all of your discussions.

Sometimes, you need to pick when to make your stand. In front of customers and other employees is not the time to do it, any more than it is the time for a manager to reprimand. Scotcop comes out looking like the professional who kept his cool while the manager comes across looking like very unprofessional, and worse, insubordinate. Scotcop could not have handled the immediate situation any better. If he had started shouting back, that would have given the superviser grounds for a write up and disciplinary action for insubordination. Scotcop showed that he can be relied upon to behave like an adult with self control even in the most vile of circumstances... and said manager has shown himself to be happy to create vile situations. Having handled the initial event the way he did gives him an almost airtight case to take to his higher-ups in the manner that you suggest. Now that the situation is over and Scotcop has shown his quality, it's time to...

...report the tirade to the manager and demanded an apology both written and public from the offender. failure to do so would require you to report this incident to the regional manager, the companies HR department and the state labor board. This is precisely what there are harassment policy and laws you were harassed and use the term a lot in all of your discussions.

Did you know that in the Pacific theater of war in World War II, Japanese casualties numbered something like 10 to every one Allied casualty? Do you know why that is? Strategy. It all comes down to good planning. I repost your strategy of complaint because you said it perfectly from that point on. The thing to remember here is that the supervisor obviously planned to launch his attack at a specific time. If you make a banzai attack against a well entrenched force, you will die. Meet strategy with strategy- plan it well. That's how you win a battle like this.

[NewGuise]

Scotcop comes out looking like the professional who kept his cool while the manager comes across looking like very unprofessional, and worse, insubordinate. Scotcop could not have handled the immediate situation any better.

Amen.

[wildrover]

Usually the shirt and tie is for salaried managers so a lot of customers came to me to complain about stuff.

That'd be enough for me to swear off ties !

[GreenDragon]

Count me as *** for the 'apology' route.

I'd take it a step further however... I would write the apology letter to your direct supervisor and CC it to the boss whose permission you DID get. It would read the same as the letter by COURTMOUNT outlined above, with 1 small addition.

"In the future, I would ask that any discussions on my behavior / attire be dealt with in a professional manner, instead of berating me in front of my peers and the store's customers. Such circumstances are best dealt with in private as it's unprofessional to accuse someone of being a 'tranny' in public."

I would apologise to him for your alledged 'unprofessionalism', as well as call him out for HIS unprofessional behavior.

Well said.

[Andrew M. Stewart]

i foresee a cup of coffee spiked with ex-lax

nice!

[Good Egg]

Finally, as far as the "Major" thing goes, its about time to start calling him Mr., or Stan or whatever his first name is.

Bearing in mind that it was only mentioned that the 'gentleman' in question was a retired Major, we have not been told that he still uses his rank.

Its entirely up to you how you choose to address anyone, there is no law that says you have to be polite. A retired officer is perfectly entitled to continue to use his rank if he wishes to. The fact that a General chooses not to doesn't alter that. If you decide to address him as 'Mister' in order to be rude that's fine as long as you are intending to be rude. Same goes for first names bearing in mind that the 'gentleman' in question is at least 20 years older than Scotscop.

I was quite rude about Majors earlier on, but I'm in a position to be so and had a bit of a pop at passed over Majors doing dodgy staff jobs. There is another sort of Major. Ex-rankers. In some ways these guys have had a much harder fight to get to Major and with few exceptions it is their ceiling. An ex-ranker who achieved his majority has something to be proud of although some of them find it hard to let go of the Sergeant Major bit...

[rsvpiper]

The man's a nob! did you get it in writing from the senior manager?

Like many ex service people they can struggle to accept the civie street is much more live and let live rather than conform or die! (Ex services myself)

But still is he normally a nob at work if so see point above

The balls in your court i would go over his head get a meeting with HR your senior man and him.......... then KICK him in the BALLS

Just my opinion mind

[flyingshamrock]

That's definitely discrimination ! Screw that I'd be putting up a fight !!!!