My Brothers Wedding

[wildrover]

His wife washed the kilts and the formal wear together again.

It's funny how tartan can bleed on to other garments, eh?





Oh yeah, on more serious note, worth saying again: "within reason and good taste." Maybe don't wear the Loud MacLeod with matching tartan vest, this time around ...

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-Sean

[Jock Scot]

It's funny how tartan can bleed on to other garments, eh?





Oh yeah, on more serious note, worth saying again: "within reason and good taste." Maybe don't wear the Loud MacLeod with matching tartan vest, this time around ...

!

-Sean

On a more serious note, there are those of Clan MacLeod that might take a dim view of your comments.

[tetley88mark]

had an interesting discussion with the bride yesterday where i found out she was very obsessed with her color scheme (ivory and claret) to the point she even asked a potential reception venue if they'd change their blue curtains to red so that it would match. she told me i could wear my stewart hunting kilt but would prefer if i wore my plain black kilt so as not to distract from the color scheme



so that's more or less the outfit she'd prefer but with darker reds, any thoughts?

[saxandpipes]

Danger, Will Robinson...

[Cygnus]

In my experience, it's wise to do whatever the bride asks. If she says she "prefers" the black kilt, then wear the black kilt. If she says she prefers ruche ties, then wear a ruche tie (even if it pains you to do so). If she says she likes the pleats in front, then wear the kilt backwards.

In the end, it's her day, and I would consider myself lucky if my brother and future sister in law were considerate enough to think of my clothing preferences when planning a wedding.

[McFarkus]

Definitely listen to the bride, it will make your brother's life much easier. If she is obsessing about curtain colors at the venue, you do not want to add to her worries. It is HER day. I would imagine with the black kilt, you will 'blend' more easily with the other groomsmen.

[CMcG]

had an interesting discussion with the bride yesterday where i found out she was very obsessed with her color scheme (ivory and claret) to the point she even asked a potential reception venue if they'd change their blue curtains to red so that it would match. she told me i could wear my stewart hunting kilt but would prefer if i wore my plain black kilt so as not to distract from the color scheme



so that's more or less the outfit she'd prefer but with darker reds, any thoughts?

In my experience, it's wise to do whatever the bride asks. If she says she "prefers" the black kilt, then wear the black kilt. If she says she prefers ruche ties, then wear a ruche tie (even if it pains you to do so). If she says she likes the pleats in front, then wear the kilt backwards.

In the end, it's her day, and I would consider myself lucky if my brother and future sister in law were considerate enough to think of my clothing preferences when planning a wedding.

When a bride is organizing her wedding with that level of detail and you are in the wedding party, do your best to conform to her wishes. I trust, however, that Cygnus is being facetious when he says to go as far as wearing the kilt backwards...

I was in a similar situation last year. A buddy of mine had a big, fat, Italian-American wedding and wanted me to be kilted amongst the other 7 groomsmen.

As I gathered the necessary kit, I consulted with my friend about what needed to be matched. I ended up wearing the same rented tuxedo shirt, bowtie, blue vest, and patent leather shoes as the other groomsmen. I wore neutral coloured hose and my lass made flashes with the same colour and pattern as the rented vest. For the jacket, my buddy was explicit about the lapel; it had to be notch and not shawl or peak. I wore a Braemar jacket, tartan kilt, and topped the whole thing off with my dad's vintage horsehair sporran.

When in doubt, ask the bride!

[Jock Scot]

Alright I accept that things are done a little differently in other parts of the world, but in Scotland it is the brides mother and father,whilst no doubt guided by the bride to be, who are the arbiters of what is or is not worn. As we are talking about the kilt we are, at least, giving some recognition of a Scots connection and there is no way, under any circumstances, would a Scot ever change his tartan kilt for anything else.Nor, would any one even dare ask him to. Scots brides understand that, if they don't, there may well be no wedding!

Now I don't know if your tartan is a family one, if it isn't, then alright I suppose there is no reason why you could not accede to the wishes of the bride. Apart from being dressed in some travesty of a kilt such as the one in the picture -----and that awful tie!Sorry I can't help it!.

[MacLowlife]

History shows again and again
how women regard the follies of men

Bride bride bridezilla

[Cygnus]

Alright I accept that things are done a little differently in other parts of the world, but in Scotland it is the brides mother and father,whilst no doubt guided by the bride to be, who are the arbiters of what is or is not worn. As we are talking about the kilt we are, at least, giving some recognition of a Scots connection and there is no way, under any circumstances, would a Scot ever change his tartan kilt for anything else.Nor, would any one even dare ask him to. Scots brides understand that, if they don't, there may well be no wedding!

Now I don't know if your tartan is a family one, if it isn't, then alright I suppose there is no reason why you could not accede to the wishes of the bride. Apart from being dressed in some travesty of a kilt such as the one in the picture -----and that awful tie!Sorry I can't help it!.

Traditionally, that is how it is/was done here in the US as well. However, one thing that I've noticed is that the level of independence (both financial and otherwise) increases as the average age of newly weds increases. This, in the states at least, has led to the trend of the couple being more responsible for their wedding - in many cases this includes footing the better part of the bill!

In the end, the way to tell who is "heading things up" is to look at the invitation. If it says "Mr. and Mrs. Douglas D. Douglas are pleased to announce..." (or something similar), then it's the parents that you should ask. If it says, "Jane and John are getting married!" or "The bride and groom request your presence..." then you know the wedding is being put on by the couple themselves or that the couple is taking responsibility for such things.

Sadly, the kilt is seen as a bit of an oddity here and few people understand its significance - and recent threads have shown how very obsessive some of us can be about making sure everything matches. The fact the OP owns a plain black kilt made me assume that he would be willing to wear one!