My Brothers Wedding

**MacLowlife** · 31st August 10, 09:14 AM

I would like to reconsider my earlier post. As scary as an angry bride can be, they are few and far between and the risk of one is far outweighed by the absolute joy and beauty of a happy bride. Do whatever you can to make her happy. It is well worth it.

**Cygnus** · 31st August 10, 09:16 AM

Originally Posted by CMcG

I trust, however, that Cygnus is being facetious when he says to go as far as wearing the kilt backwards...

Or was he?!

I'm reminded of a friend's Renaissance-themed wedding. I was the best man and have to admit that I was appalled by the clothes waiting for me when I arrived.

But, as has been stated, it's the bride's big day. If either the couple or one of their parents are really good friends (as was the case) or family, I'd do just about anything to make them feel like their day was perfect. This could include both wearing a kilt backwards or wearing the most ridiculous puffy shirt the world has ever known!

I would, of course, point out that the aprons go in front, but if the "stars of the day" insisted, I'd follow their wishes or not attend (depending on how close we were).

**kc8ufv** · 31st August 10, 09:44 AM

Originally Posted by Cygnus

Or was he?!

I'm reminded of a friend's Renaissance-themed wedding. I was the best man and have to admit that I was appalled by the clothes waiting for me when I arrived.

But, as has been stated, it's the bride's big day. If either the couple or one of their parents are really good friends (as was the case) or family, I'd do just about anything to make them feel like their day was perfect. This could include both wearing a kilt backwards or wearing the most ridiculous puffy shirt the world has ever known!

I would, of course, point out that the aprons go in front, but if the "stars of the day" insisted, I'd follow their wishes or not attend (depending on how close we were).

I have a friend that is a wedding photographer. I'm certain that if asked, she would tell you that what the bride wants, the bride gets. PERIOD! END OF DISCUSSION!

**tetley88mark** · 31st August 10, 03:04 PM

i'm just trying to think of ways to make that outfit look more highland and not so forced if that makes sense?

maybe the addition of dark red or argyle hose would make a difference? i'm not sure but it just doesn't look right to me, i want it to look good and suitably traditional without ruining the color scheme and being offensive

**MacRobert's Reply** · 31st August 10, 04:44 PM

I have not come across a bride in Scotland who has specified the kilt that a guest should wear. I'm sure it must happen but I doubt if it's common. However, I have often seen matching pocket handkerchiefs and ties, including the dreaded ruche, worn at the bride's or her mother's request.

To look highland, a kilt in your clan tartan or another tartan with which you have a connection is really the primary prerequisite. As the others are wearing morning dress, then, as pointed out in this thread, an Argyle jacket is the correct highland equivalent. Shirt, tie, shoes and hose are all much more negotiable. Red hose would be fine but full tartan or Argyle hose is usually reserved for evening wear. You could consider single colour hose with diced tops.

People are more important than clothes and it is primarily the bride's day but I doubt if it's possible to look highland without a tartan kilt.

When an irresistible force meets an immovable object ...

Is this what you guys on the other side of the pond call "a no-win scenario"?

**tetley88mark** · 31st August 10, 05:07 PM

yes something like that

i wouldn't mind but they seem to be moving the goal posts a wee bit, maybe this is their plan to get me in a suit, say that they want me in a kilt then limit the requirements of what i can wear so much i give up and wear the morning suit like everyone else

**Cygnus** · 31st August 10, 06:05 PM

Originally Posted by MacRobert's Reply

Red hose would be fine but full tartan or Argyle hose is usually reserved for evening wear.

Actually, in Scottish Tartans and Highland Dress, C.R. MacKinnon says that diced or tartan hose are necessary for formal morning dress. I think it was during years that have passed since MacKinnon wrote that dress standards relaxed to allow for plainer hose with morning dress.

I do think a solid kilt with diced or argyll hose would look a bit strange, though.

If you're not liking the options with which you've been left, you could always see about getting a suit like everyone else; though that would be a last resort.

**Jordan** · 31st August 10, 10:52 PM

Originally Posted by MacRobert's Reply

I have not come across a bride in Scotland who has specified the kilt that a guest should wear. I'm sure it must happen but I doubt if it's common. However, I have often seen matching pocket handkerchiefs and ties, including the dreaded ruche, worn at the bride's or her mother's request.

To look highland, a kilt in your clan tartan or another tartan with which you have a connection is really the primary prerequisite. As the others are wearing morning dress, then, as pointed out in this thread, an Argyle jacket is the correct highland equivalent. Shirt, tie, shoes and hose are all much more negotiable. Red hose would be fine but full tartan or Argyle hose is usually reserved for evening wear. You could consider single colour hose with diced tops.

People are more important than clothes and it is primarily the bride's day but I doubt if it's possible to look highland without a tartan kilt.

When an irresistible force meets an immovable object ...

Is this what you guys on the other side of the pond call "a no-win scenario"?

I'm quite courious about your comments how does one look highland?
Jock, I know your not a big fan but I have a black kilt suit which I wore a few weeks back ill put some pics up tonight. Dont really know what I would do if I was told not to wear my clan tartan but I foot think I wouldnt be too happy
Jordan

**Jordan** · 1st September 10, 02:09 PM

Photos as promised

I would like to know what you think Jock, Its not traditional but I think it works.

I still dont think I would be too happy to be told I couldnt wear my tartan in any situation but thats just me, I would have a quiet word with the bride if you wanted to but if your not fussed about it dont worry.

Just my tuppence Jordan

**Jock Scot** · 1st September 10, 02:38 PM

Well at least you are not wearing one of those dreadful "ruche tie" things! Actually Jordan, you do look very smart and I particularly like the white shirt with the outfit.

No, on the whole I don't like kilt suits, not really sure why, but I suspect my thought processes go along the lines of:".......what a waste, a tartan kilt would look so much better......." each to their own, eh?