Virtual Kilt Check

[Jimmy]

yes, it is a very personal question and should not have been asked, whether someone is regimental, commando or whatever is up to them
nevertheless, I think anyone who wears anything under their kilt is a big girl's blouse

[Danwell]

yes, it is a very personal question and should not have been asked, whether someone is regimental, commando or whatever is up to them
nevertheless, I think anyone who wears anything under their kilt is a big girl's blouse

If you claim to think it's "very personal", how can you then declare that you think anyone wearing anything under it is a "big girl's blouse"? If you accept that it is a personal decision, what gives you the right to judge another's choice just because it's different to yours?

[Chas]

Maybe it is because I live on a different continent. Or maybe it is a generational thing, but I have difficulty in understanding the antagonism to the question.

I am 58. When I was growing up, I was taught that there were three areas of a persons life that were sacrosanct. You didn't talk about them or make enquiries, unless invited in. It was rude and impolite.

The first was a persons religious beliefs; the second was their political views; and the third was their sexual orientation.

EVERYTHING else was fair game and open to public scrutiny and questioning.

Why this simmering aggression?

Regards

Chas

[CDNSushi]

I must admit... My knee-jerk reaction was to say "None o' yo' business!" and post up something indicating my indignant rage about the audacity of some people asking such a thing.

Thing is, had I done so, I'm pretty sure I would contract foot-in-mouth disease later on. For anyone who knows me, and anyone else who has read any of my posts over the past two years, they will already know the answer to my question, not even because they asked, but because I freely provided the information. It would be a bit hypocritical of me to then turn around and say "butt out" when I've already chosen to make that bit of knowledge public.

Upon further reflection, it dawned on me that sometimes we get so conditioned by our automatic replies that we don't stop to realize when we're picking the wrong fight with the wrong people.

What I think this question ultimately comes down to is a level of trust... I believe there are many levels of trust, and if I were to illustrate it graphically, it would look like our solar system... I would be in the center, with the closest "planet" orbiting around me representing the highest level of trust. That would be my wife. No one else comes even close to what I can (and do share) with her, and likewise she with me. The next planet's orbit would represent my best friend(s) whom I trust implicitly with many parts of me that others wouldn't or couldn't comprehend. A level beyond that would be my parents... They used to be on a closer orbit, but since I moved out of the house at 18 and started my own, independent life, the orbit has gotten farther out and been replaced by my wife. Beyond that are other friends, beyond that acquaintances, and beyond that, all the stars and planets are complete strangers to whom I owe no debts or require no obligations... Complete strangers.

So what level of trust is required to know what lies between my bits and my kilt? Now, maybe others won't agree, but my wife knows very well... As she should, IMO. Beyond that it's up to individual comfort levels. For me, my close and even more distant friends know. Complete strangers on the other hand? No. They have no right to know -- they have not earned a place of trust.

The same way, when we go to the doctor, we allow him to examine us rather than responding "none of your business." It wouldn't be appropriate... Just the same way as it wouldn't be appropriate for me to drop my drawers for someone on the street just to ask if "this looks infected to you"... There's a time and a place for everything, even (and perhaps especially) including personal questions, which as others have pointed out -- no one is being compelled to answer if they are uncomfortable doing so.

I can understand however, that it seems there is a never-ending fascination by the public-at-large about what we have hidden underneath... And it gets tiring after awhile. Get asked a few times and you want to say, "Quit it with the question already. Just accept me for who I am and stop thinking about my junk!"

But posing the same question among brethren is, in my opinion, a lot different than when a gawker, rubbernecker, or morbidly curious onlooker asks it. In the interest of educating and enlightening those who either OWN a kilt but may think they are unique (by wearing or not wearing anything underneath) or those who may own one in the future, I think it's a perfectly valid question to ask under these circumstances. No one wants to be called out and called names for being different, and I think it eases the fears and concerns of many to learn that there are both those who do and don't wear something under their kilt, to varying degrees.

Now as to the OP's choice of wording in the poll.... I had to read and re-read the options a few times to understand exactly what he was getting at, but I think I got it now. And since I've already shared it elsewhere on XMTS, be it known that I generally DO wear something underneath, and I have my good reasons for it. Anyone who really wants to know what they are is welcome to PM me and I will be glad to share them in private. ith:

[herminator]

yes, it is a very personal question and should not have been asked, whether someone is regimental, commando or whatever is up to them
nevertheless, I think anyone who wears anything under their kilt is a big girl's blouse

Thank you very much sir, this is exactly the gentlemanly behaviour we like here on XMTS! NOT!!

Shalom
Hermann - big girls blouse, by the way