Planned Wedding Kilt

**EagleJCS** · 15th December 10, 02:49 PM

Definitely flashes, either blue to match the tie (I know, Rabble, it doesn't need to be matchy-matchy

), green to go with the kilt, or red for a little pop of color. Not tartan. If wide enough, I prefer to line the front edge of the flashes along the shinbone, leaving the back edge no further back than the midline of the calf.

I also would prefer the point (or turndown) collar to the wing collar with that type of tie. The wing collar is usually reserved for use with a bow tie.

When wearing ghillies, I prefer to tie the knot on the outsides of the shins (10 o'clock and 2 o'clock). Then the knot lines up underneath the flashes. The height of the knot as pictured was just fine.

**Jock Scot** · 15th December 10, 02:54 PM

Originally Posted by JSFMACLJR

Good suggestions thus far, for the most part.

My own thoughts?
1. Skip the fly plaid.
2. Wear a "normal" four-in-hand necktie, with a turn-down collar shirt.
3. Get some hose in a claret ( or brighter ) red.
4. Do not wear tartan flashes. Blah.
5. Make sure that the length of the sleeves of the shirt is such that about 1/2" of cuff is showing.

Have a grand time!

Sage advice there!

**piperdbh** · 15th December 10, 06:15 PM

I agree with Sandy and Jock, even as a fan of the fly plaid.
I'd like to see a red tie with red hose and white garter ties, especially if you're going to wear the ghillies. The red hose peeking out through the laces of the ghillies looks pretty snazzy.
May I ask why you chose the Braemar jacket over the Argyll? (Not a criticism, just wondering.)

Here's another thought. What if your hose or flashes/garters were the same color as the bride's flowers or the bridesmaids' dresses? Too matchy-matchy?

**Burly Brute** · 15th December 10, 10:07 PM

Originally Posted by piperdbh

May I ask why you chose the Braemar jacket over the Argyll? (Not a criticism, just wondering.)

That's a question for the fiance ;-)

**tripleblessed** · 15th December 10, 10:11 PM

In much agreement with above. I can go either way on the fly plaid, but it probably ought to be the bride's call. The tie jarred me more than the rest,
especially with that collar. I think Sandy's correct: standard four-in-hand,
standard collar. Also, piperdbh may have gifted you with brownie points
with the flashes/bridesmaids color suggestion, and if there's a time to be
getting in good with your partner, this is it.

Congratulations, and a long and happy life together.

**JSFMACLJR** · 16th December 10, 04:11 AM

Originally Posted by Burly Brute

That's a question for the fiance ;-)

Is it? I've never subscribed to that school of thought. It is YOUR wedding too! Why can't a man have any input on what to wear to his own wedding?

I'm very happily married, yet there was never any ultimatum from my wife as to what I was to wear at our wedding. She had complete trust in my taste and respected that.

Oh well...

**Tobus** · 16th December 10, 07:18 AM

If I may, I'd like to make one more respectful suggestion, and it has nothing to do with the clothing choice.

Strike a pose, man!

Even the best-dressed gentleman will look less than his best if he doesn't exude the right amount of confidence and pride. Granted, your pictures in this thread were likely taken just to model the clothing, and you weren't attempting to put your best foot forward, as it were. But you sort of have a 'deer in the headlights' look and you're standing plainly, with your hands hanging limply for the camera. That'll never do for wedding pictures, especially the ones that are taken candidly (i.e. not posed).

This may sound silly to some, but I personally think it's important for new kilt-wearers to practice in front of a mirror. You should become a different person when you don the kilt: prouder, more confident, knowing that the ladies will be looking. Find a natural stance that's comfortable yet confident, which makes you look your best. Perhaps one leg slightly forward with knee slightly bent, shoulders back, chin up, and maybe your hands behind your back in a gentlemanly manner, or a hand on one hip. I always like the Duke of Rothsay look, with one hand gracefully reaching to the waistcoat pocket, although that may appear a bit presumptuous for most settings. Pick whatever works for you. And wear a facial expression that is confident but doesn't border on being snooty or smirky.

My point is, this will be your wedding day, and people will be snapping all sorts of pictures of the groom, even when you're not looking. You'll have to live with those photos the rest of your life, so you'll want to not only dress your best, but LOOK your best. Vain though it may seem, standing before a mirror at home will allow you to find the posture and demeanor that will indeed make you look your best. Find that look and get comfortable with it before the wedding.

Just my humble opinion!

**Riverkilt** · 16th December 10, 07:49 AM

Fine suggestions - curious where you're at - who's shop are you renting from? Thought the only one we had in Arizona had closed up??

**Burly Brute** · 16th December 10, 09:42 AM

Originally Posted by JSFMACLJR

Is it? I've never subscribed to that school of thought. It is YOUR wedding too! Why can't a man have any input on what to wear to his own wedding?

I'm very happily married, yet there was never any ultimatum from my wife as to what I was to wear at our wedding. She had complete trust in my taste and respected that.

Oh well...

Less ultimatum and more I don't really care too much on the details and she appreciates the sentiments. Happy wife, happy life!

**Burly Brute** · 16th December 10, 09:44 AM

Originally Posted by Tobus

If I may, I'd like to make one more respectful suggestion, and it has nothing to do with the clothing choice.

Strike a pose, man!

Even the best-dressed gentleman will look less than his best if he doesn't exude the right amount of confidence and pride. Granted, your pictures in this thread were likely taken just to model the clothing, and you weren't attempting to put your best foot forward, as it were. But you sort of have a 'deer in the headlights' look and you're standing plainly, with your hands hanging limply for the camera. That'll never do for wedding pictures, especially the ones that are taken candidly (i.e. not posed).

This may sound silly to some, but I personally think it's important for new kilt-wearers to practice in front of a mirror. You should become a different person when you don the kilt: prouder, more confident, knowing that the ladies will be looking. Find a natural stance that's comfortable yet confident, which makes you look your best. Perhaps one leg slightly forward with knee slightly bent, shoulders back, chin up, and maybe your hands behind your back in a gentlemanly manner, or a hand on one hip. I always like the Duke of Rothsay look, with one hand gracefully reaching to the waistcoat pocket, although that may appear a bit presumptuous for most settings. Pick whatever works for you. And wear a facial expression that is confident but doesn't border on being snooty or smirky.

My point is, this will be your wedding day, and people will be snapping all sorts of pictures of the groom, even when you're not looking. You'll have to live with those photos the rest of your life, so you'll want to not only dress your best, but LOOK your best. Vain though it may seem, standing before a mirror at home will allow you to find the posture and demeanor that will indeed make you look your best. Find that look and get comfortable with it before the wedding.

Just my humble opinion!

Oh trust me, the wedding pics will be insane! I was getting still fitted in one of the pics, as you can see the tailor. But, great advice and great way to express! Thanks mate!