Thinking of Leaving

[tripleblessed]

A wise man once said that if you find yourself in agreement with the majority, you're probably wrong. Frequent exceptions, of course, but much truth. I will agree I am baffled at times by reactions to posts, mine or others, and would prefer a more robust, free-ranging discussion among civil, respectful, people. I've learned I don't always get what I want. If it gets non-productive, I just back out of a thread, as it sometimes is clear the objectors have not or will not read what was written, but instead rant about what they are afraid was meant (or maybe hope was meant). I'm sure that my lack of understanding of the process of being a moderator here does not mean there isn't care, tough decisions, and prodigious work involved. I do think attempting to eliminate all controversy eliminates the purpose and definition of "forum", and participation in lively discussions can be very educational.

I know that when I thought I might be the cause of a thread closing, I PMed the warning moderator and asked advice. Composing this post, I realize I have failed to do so when I wasn't the possible cause, so apologies to mods for my un-posted objections to proceedings.

I have almost always been ahead of the curve, or behind the curve, or on the fringe one way or another, and it can get tiresome to get continually slammed, but in engaging with those who disagree, I learn. I have spent much of my adult life teaching in non-standard venues things that scare many people. It has been tough, but if I believe it's valuable, I HAVE to put up with the scorn and abuse to function in that capacity. And it's great to get a phone call from someone you never met who says, "I called you on the recommendation of a friend, you don't know me, you gave me three hours of your time, and a year later I can say that what you told me changed my life and I am exceedingly grateful".

I can only say I would be saddened by the departure of anyone who has contributed. It's not always immediately evident that your opinion and contributions are valued. I would ask that you reconsider, I will understand if you don't.