How to talk her into it?

**McMurdo** · 6th April 09, 07:48 AM

I'd say that it is a great idea to show her the photos have her go through the Formal Wear Thread, the Best of your Best Thread, and the 10 looks thread, in this one look near the bottom for the appropriate dress, you may also get her to look at the vintage thread.

I would also say you should talk to her about how important your heritage is to you, also I would put forth the idea that the family tartan can pull together the entire decorating look for the wedding. At both my brother's weddings part of it was the presentation to the new bride of a sash in the clan tartan by my Dad. It was a symbolic welcome to the family and was very well received.

**crboltz** · 6th April 09, 07:56 AM

First, I think Rex hit made the best argument.

I would remind her that for your wedding, you will be wearing a brand new kilt, a brand new jacket, and all brand new accessories. These items will only be tried on once time prior to the wedding to assure that they fit, and make their grand premiere at the wedding. Remind her that she (and possibly her maid of honor) will be responsible picking out the kilted outfit that will most compliment her wedding dress. With those requirements (and yes, you must stick to them!) I don't see how she could not approve.

**ali8780** · 6th April 09, 08:15 AM

Hmm.. This is tough for me because I can't understand why she wouldn't just love for you to wear one...

I think everyone already gave great advice, just remember it's your wedding too!

Good luck and let us know how it goes.

**KiltedBrewer** · 6th April 09, 08:23 AM

It sounds to me like her argument isn't really what's bothering her, but I don't know what her objection might be. If you think it will help to see a kilted groom, I'd be happy to send you some photos from my kilted wedding last May. Just let me know.

David

**Chrissss** · 6th April 09, 08:24 AM

A Happy Wife = A Happy Life

Although it's your wedding, too...this is truly the Brides Day. She has very likely fantasized different scenario's over the years of what HER wedding day should be like. I would not want to interfere with that.

Yes, show her the various levels of formal dress...PC, Doublet's, etc. But if it were me I wouldn't force it if she doesn't come around. This is HER day to shine. Giving her that is one of the best wedding gifts you can give her.

Chris...
(happily married for 22 years...)

**Panache** · 6th April 09, 08:40 AM

Originally Posted by Rex_Tremende

"Darling, I know you've had a vision of what your wedding would be like some day for as long as you've had an imagination. I, too, would like it to be a special day for the both of us to remember forever. I want our marriage to be the one that helps us realize both our individual and mutual dreams. Yes, I wear my kilts regularly. In the future, when I wear the one from our wedding day, I will be reminded of our vows and love for each other. For me, it will be like wearing your embrace wherever I go."

I doff my plumed hat to the King!

All you wish is to look your absolute best in the attire that means something special to you when you look into the eyes of the woman you love and say "I Do"

Cheers

Jamie

**thescot** · 6th April 09, 09:14 AM

Well, I suspect that her father, brothers, uncles, etc. wear trousers all the time, but they'll probably wear them at the wedding without cheapening them.

I would suggest, in a very sweet way, that she is totally in control of the ladies' attire, and you should do the same for the men's. It is your wedding as well, after all. And your own heritage is as important as everyone else's.

And good luck. It is my experience that dealing logically and reasonably in a situtation like this is useless. Logic and reason are not often prevailing attributes of women regarding their weddings.

My wife insists it's the bride's day, and no one else's. Needless to say, we disagree. I simply ask her how it's going to happen without the groom or the minister.

**Kilt TN** · 6th April 09, 09:42 AM

If you wear you kilt most of the time, tell her you want to look natural and at eas

**Computergeek** · 6th April 09, 09:51 AM

Guy's I have to disagree with most of you. Chrisss has it right. I am getting married this July and my fiance supports me wearing the kilt all the time. When it came to the wedding I let her make the call on it because ultimatly this is her day. My part is to show up and look pretty (and that will eb enough of a chore by itself) and stand where I am told. Kerr the Walker if she supports you the rest of the time it is a little thing to put on a tux to make her happy. Remember when it comes to weddings a groom is jsut an accessory to go with a brides smile.

**sathor** · 6th April 09, 09:54 AM

Originally Posted by Jock Scot

Aha, there is your problem! Her cousin has already done it! Your lady wants to lead, not follow.

I think that might be it right there.

That reason alone means it is a hard fight to win, and even if you do win, you will probably lose.

With luck, when my wife and I do a renewal of vows in a few years, it will be kilted. I'd have loved to been kilted for my wedding, but things were hectic, and I was traveling between MI and SC while she was going between MI and OH for the OH wedding, and doing the details there. (My dad was very sick and I was spending time there instead of where we were living or in Ohio working on last minute details. )

There were a number of issues that came up that weakened the wedding, our priestess canceled and we had to find a replacement, of the group of people we knew in MI, none that could officiate had the authority to do such in Ohio, except for me, and that was out of the question, and there were a few other details that made it a bit more difficult. We just got past our 5 year, I think she wants to do it for our 10 year.