Kilts at funerals/memorial services

**Riverkilt** · 16th March 11, 08:41 AM

Have worn the kilt to three local memorial services for friends. Never a problem and in my opinion was appropriately dressed.

After one service the parents of the deceased made a point to thank me for wearing the kilt in honor of their late daughter's Scottish heritage.

**Jock Scot** · 16th March 11, 08:52 AM

Ahem, should one take the trouble of reading the first post on this thread you will clearly see that the OP was asking about the situation in Scotland.

Of course the kilt is appropriate attire, providing it is worn appropriately on the appropriate occasion and that is best left to the sympathetic judgement of the person on the spot.

**Riverkilt** · 16th March 11, 09:08 AM

Touche'.

Vision clouded by the OPs residence in Dallas, Texas U.S.A.

Me Culpa

**davedove** · 16th March 11, 10:09 AM

I think another factor that should be considered, whether in the highlands or elsewhere, is why one would want to wear the kilt to a funeral. If one is wearing the kilt out of respect for the deceased or his/her family, then it seems that would be appropriate. If one is wearing the kilt to stand out, that is improper.

As Jock said in different words, a few short questions can dispel a lot of uncertainty.

**Jaggy thistle** · 16th March 11, 12:35 PM

the only good pair of trousers I own are kept for funerals as I think the kilt is for happier occasions I do wear my kilt for a memorial service as that is a celebration of the persons life

**Cowher** · 16th March 11, 02:07 PM

Regardless of location if we want the kilt to be accepted and embraced like p@nts then asking for permission is destructive twords that end

**Jock Scot** · 16th March 11, 02:20 PM

Originally Posted by Cowher

Regardless of location if we want the kilt to be accepted and embraced like p@nts then asking for permission is destructive twords that end

"Regardless of location", I personally consider that purely selfish thoughts should be put aside and the wishes of the deceased family take precidence and they deserve the utmost consideration during their trying time.

**Father Bill** · 16th March 11, 02:33 PM

Respectfully, it seems to me that if we wish the kilt to be universally accepted (and I'm not actually sure what the purpose of that is since I can wear it if I want to anyway) then imposing it in circumstances where it could cause grief or discomfort doesn't seem to me to be a very diplomatic way to do so. It's likely to cause resentment that could last into other circumstances. My tuppence.

**Cowher** · 16th March 11, 02:40 PM

I was speaking of location in the world as in Scotland/USA/Canada/whatever other country.
Maybe I fail to understand why someone would be offended by a kilt

**Father Bill** · 16th March 11, 02:45 PM

Originally Posted by Cowher

I was speaking of location in the world as in Scotland/USA/Canada/whatever other country.
Maybe I fail to understand why someone would be offended by a kilt

Personally, I agree heartily - but it's not the kilt particularly so much as anything other than the virtually non-noticeable - anything that draws attention to ourselves as much as it honours another. It's a matter of never placing the kilt in a place where it might be upsetting to another - recognizing that we think that they'd be wrong.