How to talk her into it?

[puffer]

You might get her one of these. ( note my daughter who is a part time modle & fashion consultant ( she's in Grad. School ) is saving to buy one to wear for DRESS occasions.)

http://www.theweescottishshop.com/St...x?category=271

Puffer

[be da veva]

I was lucky. she actually chose colors to match with my tartan. I told her that i wasn't sure to wear the kilt and she told me that i'd better wear it or else.....

And I have to agree the Rex is smooth.... I delivered the lines he served and she melted... I think a new tank might be on its way.....

Thank you Rex...

[Rex_Tremende]

And I have to agree the Rex is smooth.... I delivered the lines he served and she melted... I think a new tank might be on its way.....

Thank you Rex...

At your service. You can call me Cyrano.

Regards,
Cyra-ah....Rex.

[Panache]

At your service. You can call me Cyrano.

Regards,
Cyra-ah....Rex.

HEY!







Cheers

Jamie

[JSFMACLJR]

A womans wedding is one of the most important events in her life. It's something they think about from a young age. Her cousin has done this already, and she does not want to copy her. .

Hmmm. Did her cousin wear a white dress? Is your fiancee planning to wear a white dress? I'd have to insist that she forgo the white dress, because it's already been done.

Come on here, gentlemen! I worry about your future married happiness if you all fold like a deck of cards and give in to the fantasy of a wedding being for the bride only. I'm all for peace and harmony in a marriage, but what sort of message is being sent if we are told that we must ALWAYS do as the bride wants, because "it's her special day?"

For the record, I am very happily married. I wore a navy blazer and white flannels to my wedding. My choice. I could have worn the kilt but I went with this option. We were married in a civil ceremony, but soon after had our marriage blessed by our priest and a nuptial mass celebrated. I wore the kilt with a tweed jacket to this, and the party afterwards. My wife could not have been happier at either celebration (nor I too!). We planned all the details together for both occasions. The choice of what I wore was my choice. I needed no approval. My brother who was my best man wore the same as I did to the first ceremony, and a suit to the blessing. Again, he didn't need clearance.

I know how things go, but really, if two people love each other enough to get married, certainly they should be able to sit down together and share their expectations and hopes, and compromise if necessary. A beautiful, fantasy wedding means a great deal to her: your pride in your heritage and ancestory are dear to you. Why should there be a problem?

Best wishes,
Sandford
(whose dear wife is reading this thread and is in full agreement...with me of course!)

[pastorsteve]

Being accepting and understanding of her opinion is the fastest and safest way of helping her come around to your idea. Even if she doesn't be respectful of her desires.

Remember ladies, many times, have a mental picture of their wedding from the time they are little girls. Your idea may clash with her fantasy wedding. If you value her ideas you'll be happy and fine in whatever you wear - remember - Happy Wife, Happy Life.

[pastorsteve]

Many thanks for the replies and suggestions. I think what it's going to come down to is me saying my piece to tell her how I feel about it, but if she won't get on board to drop it. All told, it's just clothes and not worth getting all bent about.

I'll definitely keep you all posted reagrdless.

You are very correct. Crying over not being able to wear a kilt to the wedding would be very juvenile. It is in fact simply clothing. If she knows you respect her wishes and desires, she may soften her stance. If not, you'll look great in a tux, or whatever.

[JSFMACLJR]

You are very correct. Crying over not being able to wear a kilt to the wedding would be very juvenile. .

And for a bride to insist that her groom not
wear the kilt is equally as juvenile. So, what to do? I just don't buy into this business of the wedding being for the bride only. What a sexist affront to the sensibilities of gentle-folk everywhere!

[pastorsteve]

Let's look at this - manly. This is your one true love, to be honored, respected, loved, for better or worse - until death do you part. Correct? At what part of honor or respect or loved does - but I want to wear my kilt enter into this formula?

Additionally have you sat around for 20 or 30 years planning that special day when you will be ONCE walked down the aisle, your father on one arm your groom waiting longingly - in his tux - at the altar?

Most guys don't want to have anything to do with the planning or execution of his wedding - and everyone knows it. So why all of a sudden would a man want to be in on the minutia of planning a wedding - down to the clothing???

If the kilt is familial, historical, worn for honoring family heritage and done so regularly it is certainly different than when worn to be different, visible, flashy or for fun. If the OP wears his kilt for the first reason I believe his bride-to-be will soften her stance and permit the kilt. If it is the latter then no harm no foul.

Additionally (and finally) this is one reason why most pastors won't marry a couple unless they schedule pre-marital counselling. All the little unspoken, and sometimes spoken, wants, needs and desires can be explored prior to that special day to make sure no feelings become hurt approaching or after the wedding.

If this day wasn't so special or pre-planned to her she wouldn't care what he wears. The expression "be a man" has been lost on many of our culture. Many men no longer have the ability to get past their little feelings being hurt and sulk to a point where a day as special as their wedding can be potentially marred if little Johhny can't wear his favorite sneakers to the ball.

This is NOT the case of the OP, he already said that in the end what his fiance wants will be..... thank goodness. ith:

[Kerr the Walker]

The amount of class the members of this group have could sink a ship. A really really big unsinkable ship.

Thanks to all for the advice, suggestions and wisdom. Not having done this before, and having no idea where to start the conversation, I was at a bit of a loss. But we have started the conversation and I'm 100% positive that in the end we will both win.

Thanks again.

~Alex