Mad as hell!

[Nick the DSM]

thats not right, bringing religion's interpretations on a man's garment and saying it crossing dressing. what does she know, eh? she cant be the all knowing person.

[auld argonian]

I gotta tell ya, I seem to have a couple of friends that seem to think that this is some kind of "undercover cross-dressing" thing. I won't even get into the people that you just run into who have the same idea...let's just talk about the people who are my friends. I just keep showing up and acting normally...that's the only thing that I can do...I have no intention of getting into a discussion past the point of my saying, "It's a kilt not a skirt...get used to it."

As to the folks who bring religion into this....I pity them. If I did believe in an Almighty Being, I'd hope that he'd at best have a sense of humor and at the least be more forgiving. Can you say "Taliban"? No kilts? What's next? Kite flying?


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[Raphael]

If she is defending her lame objection with the bible, just show up to her party with 12 of your best buddies in long white robe, sandals, long hair and an unshaven face. I wonder what is she going to say.

[RossCroft]

my 2 cents worth... i agree with the posts that say talk to her. ask about the problem. i would emphasize the cultural identity. a kilt is a historical garment (i know, preaching to the choir) from a culture of pride and "manliness". my wife drools over sean connery - even in a kilt. the times i've had to defend my kilt i've related it to the person doing the asking and their culture.

i don't think i'm phrasing this well... i live in cherokee country. i'm part cherokee myself. folks in this country do not poke fun at cherokee attire. if they poke fun at me i ask if they'd like me to ridicule their cowboy hat or ribbon shirt. my culture is mixed, but the scottish aspect means as much as any other. referencing their pride in their culture seems to help. fwiw.

[Archangel]

If she is defending her lame objection with the bible, just show up to her party with 12 of your best buddies in long white robe, sandals, long hair and an unshaven face. I wonder what is she going to say.

Well...my wife had a coworker say that "her J... didn't have a beard"??!!

That was when my wife decided to stop discussing religion with her.

Again, back to the subject at hand. We don't know this is her, we know it is the second lady that was introduced. The first lady's issues are still unclear.

[Coemgen]

I'm not sure if this was for me or DSF. So I'll answer it!

My sister in law is one of those people who knows her opinion is the correct one, and is the ONLY correct one. For example, after the last Highland Fest here in Colorado, I was driving home with my family. The steel belting in one of my tires broke right before I got onto the interstate. I didn't know what the problem was, all I knew was that my car was doing something really weird. My brother is an extremely gifted mechanic and a professional engineer (and P-whipped like you would not believe). My sis in law wouldn't let him look at my car because I'm not Christian. It was a punishment from God. Wearing thinks like kilts makes me a cross dresser, and God hates me. That's how she is. That's why her first marriage fell apart- her husband just couldn't take Lil' Ms Control Freak any longer. She's a sweet person in many ways and has been a good friend of mine for a long time, but the more I get to know her, the more frustrated I get, and the more I understand why her first husband left her. So theunderlying reason for her cruelty- I'm not doing things the way she thinks I should, so I'm wrong, and it is her God given mission to correct me.

You know, one of my favourite lines is "I wear a kilt for religious reasons; Jesus never wore pants."

[Bugbear]

The other day, a family member was telling me that I shouldn't wear my kakhi canvas kilt because "people might think you're crossdressing," so I used that as a reason to buy a SWK Weathered Lamont. I told her I bought it because she kept saying that and that I would buy another kilt if she kept complaining. She shut up about it, but if she had kept griping I was going to go find a crossdresser and introduce them.

I hate such close-mindedness!! And voluntary ignorance is no excuse!

[Chase]

Maybe if your friend Jim had called it a kilt when he told her about it she would have gotten a different picture in her head.
Since you say she's never seen you in it, she's going by what he told her.
To me there are two people that need to be talked to.

Take the "I'm not gay or a cross-dresser" comments along with you. We understand all that, I tend to believe they don't.


CT - good luck, do as you see fit

Those were my thoughts as well and I'm glad somebody else mentioned the Jim word...It seems since she's never seen you in the kilt, she may be making assumptions based on what Jim tells her and is playing off of his low self-esteem...Guys sometimes make other guys look bad, so it boost's their ego to knock you down.

I would start there, but that's just me. Regardless, good luck and you have plenty of friends here, so please keep that in mind too.

Chase

[Archangel]

my 2 cents worth... i agree with the posts that say talk to her. ask about the problem. i would emphasize the cultural identity. a kilt is a historical garment (i know, preaching to the choir) from a culture of pride and "manliness". my wife drools over sean connery - even in a kilt. the times i've had to defend my kilt i've related it to the person doing the asking and their culture.

i don't think i'm phrasing this well... i live in cherokee country. i'm part cherokee myself. folks in this country do not poke fun at cherokee attire. if they poke fun at me i ask if they'd like me to ridicule their cowboy hat or ribbon shirt. my culture is mixed, but the scottish aspect means as much as any other. referencing their pride in their culture seems to help. fwiw.

Cherokee and Scotland: Priscilla and Rita Coolidge and others form Walela, beautiful music.

Amazing Grace in Cherokee (sample before the bagpipe comes in).

[Ruanaidh]

You know, one of my favourite lines is "I wear a kilt for religious reasons; Jesus never wore pants."

You can't emphasize that enough: JC never wore pants.