Kilted attire for attending a Wedding

**pastorsteve** · 28th February 09, 12:34 PM

[QUOTE=kennethrmc;680180]This is what I plan to wear to my daughter's wedding.

I am the officiant.

Wedding is 4 PM, and fairly formal.

I have to cinch up my tie a bit better, and I'll leave the sgian dubh at home as I'm in "clergy" mode.

Thoughts?
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As a Pastor I wear my Sgain always. Some may have some personal or denominational prohibitions or aprehensions but there is not reason you can't wear it at church.

**kennethrmc** · 28th February 09, 02:20 PM

Thanks everyone for the feedback--appreciated! My daughter actually likes the red tie, and since it's her wedding...but I do agree w/ McMurdo on White shirt. And Pastor Steve, thanks for the encouragement on the black knife. It does feel more complete.

**rollerboy_1979** · 4th March 09, 12:04 AM

Originally Posted by pastorsteve

Maybe it's just a phrasing issue but the groomsmen ARE the ushers. That's how weddings are generally done world-wide. It's not an exception for Chicago. Thus as an usher or Groomsman- you are the wedding party.

From Wikipedia (not always perfect but correct here) A groomsman or usher is one of the male attendants to the bridegroom in a wedding ceremony. The term groomsman is more common in the United States, and usher is more common in the UK. Usually the bridegroom selects his closest friends and/or relatives to serve as a groomsmen, and it is considered an honor to be selected. From his groomsmen, the groom usually chooses one to serve as best man. The duties of the groomsmen are to help guests find their places before the ceremony and to participate in the wedding ceremony.

In Chicago, at Catholic wedding masses, we never called the groomsmen "ushers", but I think we're splitting hairs here. To clarify, I have not been asked to "stand up" with the groom in a tux, I'm simply being asked to escort famiy members to their pews in church, along with one other person.

**M. A. C. Newsome** · 4th March 09, 05:45 AM

One of my favorite photos of my wife and I was taken at her brother's wedding. She was in the bridal party, so her dress was more-or-less decided for her. I told my brother-in-law that I brought both pants and kilt to wear and would let the choice be his. Here is what I wore.

I also had a tweed jacket, but it was a rather warm day, so it spent most of the time on the back of a chair!

**davedove** · 4th March 09, 06:00 AM

Originally Posted by rollerboy_1979

In Chicago, at Catholic wedding masses, we never called the groomsmen "ushers", but I think we're splitting hairs here. To clarify, I have not been asked to "stand up" with the groom in a tux, I'm simply being asked to escort famiy members to their pews in church, along with one other person.

I have seen a lot of times where it is two different positions. The groomsmen hang out with the groom, you know to either make sure he goes through with it or to help him make a hasty escape.

The ushers are another set of men or boys, often cousins or nephews, who escort people to their seats.

**svc40bt** · 4th March 09, 08:55 AM

In the weddings I have been to and in, including my own, the groom and groomsmen are already standing in front before everyone is seated. Therefore ushers are required to seat people and escort the mothers of the bride and groom.

**Panache** · 4th March 09, 09:07 AM

In every wedding that I have been part of or attended the groomsmen acted as ushers before taking their places with the groom.

Cheers

Jamie

**Macman** · 4th March 09, 09:40 AM

I've done it both ways! At my first wedding, the ushers escorted people to their seats, and then came up to the front to be part of the wedding party. They were dressed the same as the groom and the best man. At my second wedding, my part of the wedding party came in with me, and there was a separate group of ushers who did the escorting, and then sat with the multitudes.

**siva011** · 5th March 09, 06:06 AM

In the weddings I've been to, including some in my family, the ushers and groomsmen were seperate. Here is how it went: the bride chose the women she was close with as her bridesmaids, and the men she was close with (who were not chosen as groomsmen) were the ushers. My cousin had 2 bridesmaids and a maid of honor. The groom picked his best freind as his best man, and his 2 brothers as his other groomsmen. The bride's 3 brothers were then the ushers, with the eldest brother being listed as "head usher". Most other weddings I've been to followed suit, except where there was a very large bridal party and then there were so many groomsmen to even out. Then they also served as ushers.

**Cherub** · 5th March 09, 06:42 AM

Interesting.

At my wedding the Bridal part was very small. Me and by best friend as my best man, my wife and her Man of Honor who was her room mate at the time and he was the Kilted Member of the party (was before i got in to Kilts)

Our ushers Were two of her cousins.

And to make it even more crazy. We had a Jewish Groom, Catholic Best Man, Wiccan Bride, Agnostic Man of Honor, and a Lesbian Anglican priest as officiant.

It was quite the ceremony