Mad as hell!

**Rex_Tremende** · 26th November 07, 03:46 PM

Originally Posted by Alan H

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While all of us have different motivations for wearing the kilt, Alan effectively raises the point that one can, and if he chooses to wear it, it ought not matter why at all. What a world we'd live in if we all had unconditional positive regard for one another!

Regards,
Rex.

**GMan** · 26th November 07, 04:10 PM

Originally Posted by Rex_Tremende

While all of us have different motivations for wearing the kilt, Alan effectively raises the point that one can, and if he chooses to wear it, it ought not matter why at all. What a world we'd live in if we all had unconditional positive regard for one another!

Regards,
Rex.

I agree it is your choice and not hers.

**Nighthawk** · 26th November 07, 04:22 PM

Originally Posted by Rex_Tremende

While all of us have different motivations for wearing the kilt, Alan effectively raises the point that one can, and if he chooses to wear it, it ought not matter why at all. What a world we'd live in if we all had unconditional positive regard for one another!

Regards,
Rex.

Yep, our world would be most pleasant indeed if we were to just extend a little basic respect to one another.

**Sardious** · 26th November 07, 10:08 PM

I asked her what men wear. When she pants, I asked her why it is that she can wear mens clothes, and that's fine, but I can't wear a kilt. All she said was "That's different."

Haha that is funny It made me smile for the day.

**Sardious** · 26th November 07, 10:14 PM

She doesn't care about Sean Connory, she doesn't care about Prince Charles or Vin Deisel or current fashion trends in male garments

She is still a lady she probably care about 2/3 if not all three of the rich and famouse for their looks guys.

**pipesndrumsnun** · 27th November 07, 12:33 PM

A little educating of the public never hurts...especially if you do it in a polite and respectful manner!

**auld argonian** · 27th November 07, 05:58 PM

I'm laughing about the whole men/women pants thing...I was just growing up when that line got crossed and blurred forever. Just think of it...I was actually alive when the majority of women and girls wore skirts! Seems like a whole lot of people, including your friend, have forgotten that.

Best

AA

**DireStraitsFan** · 27th November 07, 07:58 PM

Originally Posted by Alan H

Also, something to think about. A lot of people hear the word "kilt" and think of a tartan Scottish kilt. A tartan Scottish Kilt is "acceptable" whereas a non-tartan kilt isn't really a kilt and is therefore suspect. If you are thinking of getting a starter tartan kilt, now would be a good time to do it. Pick up a Stillwater Standard or something, and a belt and a sporran and wear that when you go see her, kilted. Sonya will know what it is, and will be less likely to flip out. After she's seen the *cough* "real kilt" a few times (swapped off with pants now and then) wear the Utilikilt and I bet any money things will go a bit easier.

Hey, it's excuse to get a new kilt! LOL

Thank you for your comments and advice. For the record, I stated in my first post that the second time I wore my kilt out I wore a SWK Standard Royal Stewart. So, it's not that the "kilt" is unrecognizable. She just doesn't get it.

**kiltedinUSMC** · 27th November 07, 08:11 PM

Wow I admire your patince with her. Like My mom always tells me you can't yell at a brick wall it wont do nothing but sit there.

**motorman4life** · 28th November 07, 12:53 PM

It seems old friends are the hardest to get through to. I have had similar difficulties. People I have known for a few years seem to be okay, but long time friends tend to "freak out" a bit or make an issue of it.

I had struggled with this and after taking to some friends 1 on 1 about it, I came to the conclusion that people get an idea of what kind of person you are when they decide to befriend you. It seems that if you do anything that they see as a contradiction to the person they see (saw) you as, they get very offended. It is almost like they take it as a personal insult. I don't know why this is, but it seems to be the case in many of these situations were these people just can't draw a parallel between their old perception of their friend and they new realization that you wear a kilt (and all of the BS that THEY have chosen to assign to that).

It could be their own pre-conceived notions, biases, homophobia or just a general misunderstanding of what the kilt means to you. My final realization was that it didn't matter to them what the kilt meant to me. They were so self-absorbed that they only cared what it meant to them, no matter how misinformed they are, some of them just couldn't warap their minds around the idea of freedom and self-expression.

Sad really.