Wedding idea. Your thoughts.

[Spuggs]

I'm engaged to a wonderful woman who happens to be a Fraser/Porter. I'm German mostly. However, the woman that was more like a Grandmother to me was a Stewart. She mentioned she wanted to live long enough to dance at my wedding. Sadly she did not.

So, in order to still have Mrs. Stewart with me, I want to sew a swatch of the Royal Stewart tartan inside my suit lapel over my heart. That way she is with me.

It was suggested by my soon to be sister-in-law that I wear a kilt but I don't like the idea of stepping on anyones toes so to speak. I have 3 universal kilts, Black Watch, Scotland the Brave and one from the Glasgow Rangers.

I figure the swatch inside the jacket is a good compromise. I am considering a vest in the Royal Stewart.

Love to hear any opinions. One way or the other because it all matters.

[The Q]

Whilst The Royal Stewart Tartan is regarded by some as either belonging to the Queen or the Stewarts it has probably been worn as a general tartan for all more than almost any other and for longer. I as A Stewart would be Honoured if you choose to wear Royal Stewart Tartan to remember Her. Preferably as a Kilt, if not as a Vest(Waistcoat), if not as a Swatch.

[JohntheBiker]

You have told us what your sister-in-law to be thinks. What about your bride-to-be? If she would like you in a kilt at your wedding, then I would give it serious consideration. You can still honour Mrs Stewart.

[KiltingandPiping]

Wonderful thought for the Stewart tartan, very noble.

You may want to consider using the German Heritage tartan from USA Kilts. For those of us with German ancestry, it's an option you can't go wrong with.

[Rick Y]

As far as a kilt goes, I agree with John. That should be a decision between the bride and you with her having the final vote. There are no authorized or certified kilt police in the US so the choice of tartan is wide open. I am sure your 'grandmother' would be honored in any way in which you wish to do so.

[Spuggs]

The Q. Thank you. Your words really mean a lot. Very kind.

JohntheBiker My sister-in-law mentioned my soon to be Mother-in Law is very proud of being Scottish. She is in her 80's and this is the last of her children to be married. My fianćee is not totally opposed to the kilt. She is leaning to a suit as it's more timeless she says and me not being Scottish. In fact, a few people (friends of the fianćee have mentioned how appropriate a kilt would be)

Kiltingandpiping. Thank you as well. Mrs. Stewart was someone really special. I've got a lot of wonderful memories. German Heritage? I'm about to have a look. (ooh, just did, beautiful) I'd also looked at some of the Canadian tartans, Maple Leaf muted.

Ricky Y- Thanks. I agree, it should be up to my fianćee. It really is her big day after all. No matter what though, Mrs. Stuart will be with me in some way. She has to be. Be it a swatch or even a pin of her family crest inside my coat.

[Father Bill]

You're getting good advice, and I'm glad to note that you're paying good attention there. Let your beautiful, perfect, intelligent, marvellous, wonderful bride make the final decision and you'll be fine. (Rumpole of the Bailey referred to his wife as S.W.M.B.O. - "She who must be obeyed" and when I was asked if I were willing to vow obedience to the Bishop, I noted that I'd been married for almost forty years, so why not!)

Congratulations, and if you're in my neck of the woods, I work cheap - kilted or not!

[Tarheel]

There are always ties in the Stewart tartan to consider. Unless the ties of you and all the groomsmen are the same by plan. Then maybe the kerchief for the jacket. Both or either would be visible even if you decide to go kilted.

[Spuggs]

Cheers Father Bill. I figured I'd ask here so as to get impartial opinions. You know how it can be with weddings and friends. And thank you for the compliment on my finćee's behalf as well. She really is wonderful and beautiful. S.W.M.B.O!!! I'm still at the "yes dear" stage. Kidding. She is in no way demanding. I lucked out big time. Dang, you are in London?! We are in Regina. Not such a big world is it?

Tarheel, I like the idea of the ties and pocket puff. That would actually be a very classy touch.

My significantly significant other will be hearing about all of this great input tonight.

I need to spend more time on this forum. The people are so wonderful. Thank you all.

[Tarheel]

A recent interview (TV show Sunday Morning) of a couple that had been married for 81 years were asked, "what's the secret to your long marriage?" The lady piped up without hesitation, "I let him have my way." The gent nodded in agreement and they both laughed for a long time. They held hands during the whole interview.
I find that my wife and truly like each other and the rest is icing on the cake for us.