What to wear as a kilted groom?

[Jock Scot]

Formal, not formal, fairy tale, whatever...

Surely you can wear whatever the heck you want as long as your bride to be approves. It's your wedding isn't it?

Honestly, would anybody here tell another man at his own wedding "sorry mate, you can't wear this PC before 6"?

Of course polite people will not say a word on the day, but that won't stop them from thinking.

Advice has been asked for and advice is being given in good faith. What the OP does with it, is entirely his choice.

[gealach]

...Advice has been asked for and advice is being given in good faith. What the OP does with it, is entirely his choice.

Of course, Jock. Please believe me when I say that my advice was given in good faith as well.

As for that cardinal rule not to detract any attention from the bride because "it's her wedding": I think this is flawed. A wedding, in my eyes, should be about the couple and their future life together.

That's why I say, if the bride approves, wear it... KISS.

[Jock Scot]

Of course, Jock. Please believe me when I say that my advice was given in good faith as well.

As for that cardinal rule not to detract any attention from the bride because "it's her wedding": I think this is flawed. A wedding, in my eyes, should be about the couple and their future life together.

That's why I say, if the bride approves, wear it... KISS.

The problem is the bride AND her mother have probably been planning this day since the bride was born, whilst us chaps think about these things rather later in life, say, a couple of months before the Big Day!

The problem here is with kilt wedding attire, particularly of the hired variety one can end up looking like an extra on a Brigadoon film set! Yes, there is modern kilt attire thinking and given the right advice the Groom can look OK. Should the more traditional advice be listened to, then in my opinion the Groom can look a fine specimen and still avoid the out-shining the Bride on her Big Day. Sadly the unknowing, with that added complications of fanciful ideas and misinformation ----as the question of the OP has clearly demonstrated-----can end up looking more like a clown! Which is of course, precisely why he is wisely asking the question to avoid that very situation. Remember, it is not us that will look at the wedding pictures in 20 years time and it won't be us saying between gales of laughter " OMG dad what the heck were you wearing?"

[gealach]

The problem is the bride AND her mother have probably been planning this day since the bride was born, ...

Have they? That might be a huge cultural difference between US/UK and Switzerland then. I know plenty of women who planned everything meticulously. But the vast majority started planning after proposal. I'm sure they will have phantasised about it once in a while but most of them get that, when the time comes they have to quit dreaming and get real and make compromises.


I completely agree with you that hire stuff can look dreadful. I also agree that one should be careful not to look like a clown. I even more agree with McMurdo and you saying, that to a day time ceremony you would go in a tweed Argyll if you were to do it properly. Absolutely... but not (Edit: you don't have to) if you're the groom.

I do not agree that one should not wear a PC during their own day time ceremony (which is where the discussion went). I find it's not necessary to dress down in that situation.

This was my only point concerning the original question.

[Jock Scot]

The problem is that the PC is formal evening attire and whilst if that is what you want to wear then go ahead, but---------------BUT one should not kid oneself that is proper kilt day attire in any circumstance and in passing, neither is a black bow tie(unless one is a snooker player or waiter, but then one would hardly wear the kilt for those occupations), nor is the wearing of a five buttoned waistcoat with a PC, nor is a drop down tie with a PC.

The black barathea silver buttoned argyll(BBSBA) is the formal kilt jacket for day weddings or the tweed argyll is for smart day kilted weddings. It may be helpful to those outwith Scotland and the UK as a whole I think, to know that most(all?) wedding services take place during the day and if the festivities continue on into the evening , as they can, it is perfectly acceptable for the Groom and guests from the day activities to go dressed in what they are already wearing. Guests arriving for the evening events only, should take attire guidance from the bride's family. Formal, smart, casual, whatever.