Wedding Attire

[PiobBear]

I was thinking the BP, a vest/waistcoat, a rustic, Jacobite style shirt, bonnet, and nice hose with either low cut mocs or ghillies....the reception is at a pretty "pinky-up" place (as my brother would describe). So I'm getting a custom vest made...and if I can scrounge some money I'm gonna' try to get either a new kilt (with a plaid) or pick up a plaid for my Irish National kilt...Is there a specific style of vest I should get?

You don't need a vest, new kilt, or fly plaid; you need a jacket (Argyll), a dress shirt, a tie, and a presentable pair of dress shoes, like black wingtips; the Highland equivalent of what the other gentlemen in attendance will be wearing.

No Jacobite shirts or moccasins.

[berserkbishop]

You don't need a vest, new kilt, or fly plaid; you need a jacket (Argyll), a dress shirt, a tie, and a presentable pair of dress shoes, like black wingtips; the Highland equivalent of what the other gentlemen in attendance will be wearing.

No Jacobite shirts or moccasins.

Ok, we are going over the edge here. I dont know where you grew up, but the last funeral I went to in my hometown I was the only one in a suit. Most everyone, including the family was in jeans. I kept getting asked if I worked at the funeral home. The same goes for most weddings as well. You have to dress to the occasion. Here in the podunk towns of the midwest a dress shirt and tie are more than appropriate for a guest who is merely spectating. I would prefer to wear a suit, but I hate out dressing the groom. I suspect Yeti maybe in the same sort of situation as far as region and dress code. No disrespect, just another point of view.

BB

[Kilted in Maine]

Ok, we are going over the edge here. I dont know where you grew up, but the last funeral I went to in my hometown I was the only one in a suit. Most everyone, including the family was in jeans. I kept getting asked if I worked at the funeral home. The same goes for most weddings as well. You have to dress to the occasion. Here in the podunk towns of the midwest a dress shirt and tie are more than appropriate for a guest who is merely spectating. I would prefer to wear a suit, but I hate out dressing the groom. I suspect Yeti maybe in the same sort of situation as far as region and dress code. No disrespect, just another point of view.

BB

I agree and was thinking the same thing.

I have been to both "black-tie" and "bathing suit" wedding receptions as well as everything in between.

These days, the "Emily Post" standards are thrown out the window.

The formaility, or informatilty, of the function should be considered when choosing what level of "highland dress" to wear.

Yeti, what do you anticipate the other guests to be wearing?

[Brian F]

I suspect Yeti maybe in the same sort of situation as far as region and dress code. No disrespect, just another point of view.

BB

Hit it on the nose BB. The weddings will be in Illinois and Indiana. The Mid West just seems to be a more "informal" place nowadays. The only people you see in suits are the old men who were raised in that scenario. Most folks my age wear jeans and a polo/button down, and think that's enough. I've always enjoyed dressing up, but like BB, don't want to outdress the groom.

One of my friends recently got married down in Harlan, KY, and he only wore dress pants, white button-down (with rolled up sleeves), and a tie. And he was the groom. So a kilt and jacket would've been far overdressed (Had I been able to go, I was going to wear a kilt and a button down, no tie).

As for the BP idea, I think I already said, I'm opting for a vest, shirt, and tie, as well as my Irish National kilt. I suspect one of the weddings to be a little more formal, and the other I've been told by the bride not to go unbifurcated until the reception.

Thanks again though for everyone's opinions and input.

~Yeti

[PiobBear]

I dont know where you grew up, but the last funeral I went to in my hometown I was the only one in a suit.

Where I grew up (Athens, Georgia), a gentleman never attended church, a wedding, or a funeral without a jacket & tie from the time they were old enough to stand up.

I attended a funeral yesterday for a friend, with the graveside service this morning. Virtually every male was in a jacket & tie, including many of us in kilts, pretty much as I described above. There were about four or five (out of maybe 200 or so) in T-shirts and blue jeans, who went up as a group to eulogize their former Scout master, as it turned out. A woman standing next to me leaned over and whispered, "Of all the things the Boy Scouts taught those young men, it's a pity they never taught them to dress appropriately."

[macwilkin]

The Mid West just seems to be a more "informal" place nowadays. The only people you see in suits are the old men who were raised in that scenario. Most folks my age wear jeans and a polo/button down, and think that's enough. I've always enjoyed dressing up, but like BB, don't want to outdress the groom.

Now, I wouldn't say that so quickly...I know a number of "young'uns" in our St. Andrew's Society here in the Midwest who wear suits/blazers etc. to various functions, myself included.

T.

[davedove]

Now, I wouldn't say that so quickly...I know a number of "young'uns" in our St. Andrew's Society here in the Midwest who wear suits/blazers etc. to various functions, myself included.

T.

That may be true Todd, but I'm sure you'll agree that for a lot of people "dressing up" means putting on the clean jeans. Growing up in southern Illinois, I even knew a few old farmers that would dress up by wearing a tie with their overalls.