Keep in mind, men can be quite protective and territorial of their spouses... the same goes for women, too.

While I wouldn't be angry at my husband if someone did that to him -- unless he seemed to have enjoyed it (which he wouldn't have, he most likely would have looked for the offender and educated them on proper etiquette such as "one shouldn't do anything like that without permission, and be prepared for people to say NO"), I definitely would have been very upset at the person doing it.

He's MY husband.

For someone to have done something like that is a HUGE no no to me. If it's in a huge crowd of people you don't know and you can't find the person, nothing is likely to be done, but you can bet my husband and I both would be on guard to keep an eye out for the next rude person. In a situation where the group is smaller, a brief moment of educating the person or person/s as to how that is highly inappropriate on so many levels would probably be what we'd do.

Please understand -- while this happened to you, your wife was very upset about it. If you havent' already done so, you might want to discuss things like this with her, how you feel about them and please listen to how she feels about them. Some men may not care, but quite frankly the wife/gf MAY care. That's essentially allowing some other tramp to come into our territory. If we don't end up attacking the person who did it, you may be the target for allowing it. For you to brush it off may have upset her more into thinking you are into this.

Some folks may be okay with it. I let some close friends (female and male) kilt check my husband the CORRECT way (heck, I showed them). Some folks are NOT okay with this. I'm usually not, especially for strangers. The biggest thing is, I don't care what you're into...

you always ask permission first.

ALWAYS.

But yes, I would definitely talk to your wife because she may be hurt or thinking that you are okay with that behavior and quite frankly if my husband were like that I would view it as other potential problems (like not caring about my feelings or forgetting he already has a hot woman at his side -- I definitely would think something was up because I'm lucky and he seriously only has eyes for me and can't stand behavior like kilt checks unless it's a humorous "yes you can" moment amongst friends -- it's fine for other folks, no problem, but not for him and you definitely ASK first).

If anything, you can calm any fears or anger she might have and even have her help you not only avoid kilt checks. Whenever I think my hubby may be getting around people who might attempt it or are just looking at him weird, I put my hand on his behind. My hand is there to keep his kilt down and quite frankly? It's my way of saying "MINE, don't touch!!!!!!!!!" You can also help her with some good comebacks or even "funny" warnings that won't be too aggressive but do get the point across (like my favorite when someone asks a man "what's under the kilt" and the wife/gf steps in and replies "that's for ME to know" ;) hah!).

Sorry about rambling. I just wanted to give you another side of it. I'm not saying I know exactly what went through her head. While many people would say "this is different", keep in mind... if someone had done that to her, you would have been quite upset.

Edited to add, because I forgot (I just woke up), I'm glad you had a good time!