First Kilt Check

[Casey_in_Carolina]

I know there was some dispute about wearing a kilt on Halloween, however, I didn't care for the costume idea my wife had decided on for me, so I threw on my kilt and a t-shirt, and went as a competitor at the Highland Games. Perhaps hair splitting, but I'm using every excuse I can to wear the kilt out in public

Anyway, we were at a small Halloween party, that was also a house warming party for the host couple. I received numerous compliments on the kilt, and even talked with a young lady who shares my last name, though without the 'e', and she was absolutely fascinated to learn that there is a 'Clark' tartan. When I pointed out that they make ladies, kilted skirts in the tartan, I could see her thinking seriously about getting one for herself.

So, a couple of hours into the evening, we're all gathered into different little groups, chatting and talking about various things, and shifting groups as topics change and evolve. I'm standing there with a nice I.P.A. in hand enjoying the conversation, when I suddenly feel a draft. Then I hear the wife of a farmer co-worker of my wife exclaim"Oh My Gawd! It's True!" Luckily, she was checking from the rear, and not the front, but it still didn't go over well with my wife.

I tried to pretty much ignore it, so it wouldn't cause a stir. Plus, we're all friends of some sort or another. To be honest, I didn't really care, as at most, she saw a single cheek. My wife however, seemed quite indignant, saying to me after we were alone, "How could you let her do that?" I'm thinking mostly, how could a stop her? Firstly, it was a sneak attack, and I didn't see it coming because I was facing the other direction. Secondly, I thought it was fairly harmless, and getting all bent out of shape over it at that time would have just drawn attention to it by everyone there, instead of just the three or four people we were chatting with at the time.

Anyway, I had a good time, and apparently, so did some other folks

Hope you all had a good Halloween!

Casey

[Cynthia]

Keep in mind, men can be quite protective and territorial of their spouses... the same goes for women, too.

While I wouldn't be angry at my husband if someone did that to him -- unless he seemed to have enjoyed it (which he wouldn't have, he most likely would have looked for the offender and educated them on proper etiquette such as "one shouldn't do anything like that without permission, and be prepared for people to say NO"), I definitely would have been very upset at the person doing it.

He's MY husband.

For someone to have done something like that is a HUGE no no to me. If it's in a huge crowd of people you don't know and you can't find the person, nothing is likely to be done, but you can bet my husband and I both would be on guard to keep an eye out for the next rude person. In a situation where the group is smaller, a brief moment of educating the person or person/s as to how that is highly inappropriate on so many levels would probably be what we'd do.

Please understand -- while this happened to you, your wife was very upset about it. If you havent' already done so, you might want to discuss things like this with her, how you feel about them and please listen to how she feels about them. Some men may not care, but quite frankly the wife/gf MAY care. That's essentially allowing some other tramp to come into our territory. If we don't end up attacking the person who did it, you may be the target for allowing it. For you to brush it off may have upset her more into thinking you are into this.

Some folks may be okay with it. I let some close friends (female and male) kilt check my husband the CORRECT way (heck, I showed them). Some folks are NOT okay with this. I'm usually not, especially for strangers. The biggest thing is, I don't care what you're into...

you always ask permission first.

ALWAYS.

But yes, I would definitely talk to your wife because she may be hurt or thinking that you are okay with that behavior and quite frankly if my husband were like that I would view it as other potential problems (like not caring about my feelings or forgetting he already has a hot woman at his side -- I definitely would think something was up because I'm lucky and he seriously only has eyes for me and can't stand behavior like kilt checks unless it's a humorous "yes you can" moment amongst friends -- it's fine for other folks, no problem, but not for him and you definitely ASK first).

If anything, you can calm any fears or anger she might have and even have her help you not only avoid kilt checks. Whenever I think my hubby may be getting around people who might attempt it or are just looking at him weird, I put my hand on his behind. My hand is there to keep his kilt down and quite frankly? It's my way of saying "MINE, don't touch!!!!!!!!!" You can also help her with some good comebacks or even "funny" warnings that won't be too aggressive but do get the point across (like my favorite when someone asks a man "what's under the kilt" and the wife/gf steps in and replies "that's for ME to know" ;) hah!).

Sorry about rambling. I just wanted to give you another side of it. I'm not saying I know exactly what went through her head. While many people would say "this is different", keep in mind... if someone had done that to her, you would have been quite upset.

Edited to add, because I forgot (I just woke up), I'm glad you had a good time!

[sathor]

Keep in mind, men can be quite protective and territorial of their spouses... the same goes for women, too.

Somewhere in there is why my wife won't let me go regimental.

[Cynthia]

Well, I have absolutely no problem that my hubby goes regimental. Except for really windy days or situations like family events (Highland Games, etc), then he'll wear something under the kilt.

It just means I keep an eye out for trouble -- I mean, he's wearing the kilt. It's not too hard for me to do that. I'm already looking at him tons and putting my hands on him/arm around him because he's wearing the kilt ;) Heheheh!

[McELT]

I had a somewhat similar experience...

At my recent family reunion, I wore my County Cavan Tank so that my cousins could see what it looked like. About midway through the festivities, I felt a cold hand on my right cheek.

I looked around quickly to see my father's older sister with a big grin on her cheek. "Just checking, honey"

I told her that she owed me a dollar, which she promptly produced.

I couldn't figure out how she did it without me feeling the kilt move. She told me she just went to the bottom and reached up.

I could have gotten angry, but C'est le Vie!

[Squeaky McMurdo]

I let some close friends (female and male) kilt check my husband the CORRECT way (heck, I showed them).

There's a Correct way?

I probably would have been upset if that happened to my husband too. So far the only kilt checks he has received have been by his buddies.

[Riverkilt]

ummm...with all due respect....WHERE ARE THESE WOMEN??....I'm Lonely! Four years of kilting and but one kilt check attempt - that from a highly intoxicated guy....

Ron
Sulking in the canyonlands....

[Cynthia]

There's a Correct way?

Yeah, definitely not lifting the kilt up!

Sliding the hand up and going just far enough to tell on the side of the leg to see whether or not there's anything being worn. No actual grabbing or going too high.

Of course, when I check my hubby, I am a little more thorough!

[wsk]

That's essentially allowing some other tramp to come into our territory.

I presume that you really meant to write: "That's essentially allowing some tramp to come into our territory."

[Cynthia]

Yes, that's what I meant. I shouldn't have replied until I'd had my coffee.