Prom Kilted?

**piperdbh** · 9th November 10, 07:59 AM

As a high school teacher, my advice is to clear it with the principal ahead of time.

**Drac** · 9th November 10, 08:39 AM

I am in the Prom/Wedding is all about the lady camp. I also fall into the I'm an accessory for the women camp. I love being arm candy.

Even if you fall into the equallity of say in events it would be curtious to let your date know what you are wearing.

1) So she may, if she chooses, to cordinate her outfit. Maybe she would like a matching sash?

2) So as to not show her up. I maybe old fashion but I do find it rude to show up a lady.

3) So you don't get a "What the H...." reaction when picking her up

No matter what if your date feels hurt by your outfit choice it will make for a bad night prom, date or otherwise.

As for asking permission I also fall into that catagory with ding your homework. As has been recommended bring pics showing the correct wear of a kilt. Maybe a little history of it in case of questions. It is hardly called cross dressing when you show the proud military history of the kilt.

Jim

**Mindrop** · 9th November 10, 08:50 AM

Yes, And unless you go to a private school, you should have no problem wearing it. As far as I know, kilts are not banned from schools, as long as they are worn properly.

You proabally should notify the principle, but it is formal dress and I doubt your dress code exclude kilts. If you ask permission, they may say no (in which you can fight it unless the dress code for boys state no kilts, and I am not talking one that says no guys wearing dresses or skirts.) where as when you say politely that you are just notifying them that you are wearing it, and that it does comply with the dress code (you might want to give some history of the kilt) .

Hmmm, that is all I have. If you are taking a girl, you definantly need to get her on board. A tartan sash in black watch is a good idea.

**Drac** · 9th November 10, 08:55 AM

Originally Posted by Mindrop

Yes, And unless you go to a private school, you should have no problem wearing it. As far as I know, kilts are not banned from schools, as long as they are worn properly.

I have heard of schools that have rules against showing knees for both ladies and gents. One is to limit inappropriate dresses and the other shorts.

Jim

**McFarkus** · 9th November 10, 09:27 AM

All of this angst makes me glad I went to a school where there was no prom!

**lethearen** · 9th November 10, 12:37 PM

It's awesome that you want to wear your kilt to prom. While I do agree that the prom isn't just for the ladies, keep in mind that it's not just for you, either. I think you mentioned that prom isn't a "big thing" for her so you may not have to worry about smashing her dreams, but still... You still have to keep in mind her opinion. If she just doesn't like the kilt but doesn't hate it either, you might be ok. But if she finds it ridiculous, she may feel embarrassed to be with you at prom. You definitely don't want that. Of course you'll have to feel that one out... even if you manage to get her to say it's ok with her, keep in mind that doesn't mean she won't begrudge you or it

Another thing to keep in mind, especially when deciding on whether you're going to ask permission or just show up unannounced. If you are denied entrance because of the kilt, she could be all dressed up with no place to go, as well. Your decision can dramatically affect her evening. So... be prepared. Either have a back-up outfit you can change into, or back-up plans you can fall back on (assuming she really, truly, doesn't mind not going to prom).

In short... I'd say if she has issues with the kilt and she means more to you than just "some girl" you asked to prom, take her feelings into account and wear something more... well... boring

Even if you win the battle of her agreement, you could still leave her unhappy. And if she's unhappy... you're unhappy

**auld argonian** · 9th November 10, 01:07 PM

Having been on the forum through several of these kilt/prom discussions, I'd be really happy if just this once everything would work out to everybody's satisfaction. It'd be great if the girl loved the kilt and the school admins thought that it was a great idea and encouraged you to wear it.

I was chatting with a lady this past Friday who had gone on a trip to Africa to re-connect with her ancestry and took advantage of the trip to pick up some trad ethnic West African duds. Her pictures were fabulous and we both bemoaned the fact that folks don't just wear their ethnic garb more often and that everyone doesn't just dig it.

Best

AA

**Nighthawk** · 9th November 10, 01:24 PM

Originally Posted by auld argonian

Having been on the forum through several of these kilt/prom discussions, I'd be really happy if just this once everything would work out to everybody's satisfaction. It'd be great if the girl loved the kilt and the school admins thought that it was a great idea and encouraged you to wear it.

I was chatting with a lady this past Friday who had gone on a trip to Africa to re-connect with her ancestry and took advantage of the trip to pick up some trad ethnic West African duds. Her pictures were fabulous and we both bemoaned the fact that folks don't just wear their ethnic garb more often and that everyone doesn't just dig it.

Best

AA

That is one of the biggest reasons that I started wearing the kilt full time. I think it's sad that so many of us have lost our roots, and that so few people understand how important our heritage is to those of us who still keep the traditions of our grandparents.

**MacHiram** · 9th November 10, 01:57 PM

Originally Posted by Nighthawk

That is one of the biggest reasons that I started wearing the kilt full time. I think it's sad that so many of us have lost our roots, and that so few people understand how important our heritage is to those of us who still keep the traditions of our grandparents.

Nighthawk, you are so correct. I would only wear my kilt to "special" events and things of that sort but I turned 45 last week and decided to wear it a lot more. Where I am, you don't see that many people in a kilt and I usually hear "where are you going"? and I tell them "no where, I just wear a kilt". That has changed! Now when I leave the house (except for work) 90% of the time, I'm in a kilt and don't plan on changing that!

Kilted Hiker: I wish you the best and hope 1. you do it or 2. they let you do it. As far as your girlfriend, she needs to be educated about what our herritage means to you. I was able to convince my son's fiance and when they get married (in a couple of years) the whole wedding party is kilted. Good luck, Lad!!

**Squeaky McMurdo** · 9th November 10, 02:03 PM

I ended up in the camp (against my will!) where my mom got to pick out every detail of my prom and wedding. It sucked. I would give anything to go back in time and tell her to stick it in her ear.

*sigh*

....wonders if nighthawk does vow renewals