When I post here on XMTS

**O'Neille** · 27th February 08, 10:45 PM

I agree, I admit to deleting a lot more than I've ever posted. My Daughter is my litmus test also, if she finds it offensive then I know it's too bad for me to read!

**Alaskan Kilted Guy** · 27th February 08, 10:51 PM

I think Jamie said it well. Heck, we all read the forum rules when we sign up. This is a family forum. There are plenty of other sites out there where you can say whatever strikes your fancy. You can go start a blog and spew your every thought and feeling on any subject. Anywho, thanks all for being part of the clan-group-forum!

**slohairt** · 28th February 08, 12:24 AM

Well said indeed, Jamie!

This is a refuge from other parts of the Internet. This is one of the few places where I can read the posts (usually

) and not get a headache from posts littered with excessive swearing, bad spelling, grammatical errors, and soon-to-be-outdated slang. The members here often have something intelligent and useful to say, and conduct themselves with good decorum. That's more than can be said about other places. We should be proud.

**David Dalglish** · 28th February 08, 12:31 AM

Well said Jamie--Post in haste, repent at leisure.

**Arlen** · 28th February 08, 01:03 AM

Well said.
Sometimes it takes a little thought to step back and realise you probably don't want to get involved in this thing or react so badly to that thing.
All in, it makes a wonderful community which is first choice for many of us.

**berserkbishop** · 28th February 08, 01:54 AM

XMTS is a lot of fun and a great place to be. I have met a lot of great people because of this forum and have become more educated on my heritage as well. I honestly think the experience on XMTS is unique to most other forums. I have been very displeased with some other forums I have been a member of so X Marks is a welcome refuge. Several times i have sat and stared at what I have written for many minutes before finally deciding to hit the sumbit button. I think that restraint and careful thought are pretty much universal on this board, largely thanks to our great Moderators. We all slip up every now and then, but overall, everyone I have ever traded posts with on this website has behaved like a gentleman or lady. Thats what keeps me coming back!

BB

**Amoskeag** · 28th February 08, 04:33 AM

Firstly, I would commend the moderators. They seem to be fearless as well as very fair. The members of this board also tend to be open and accommodating. This is a huge "slice of life" here with people of all walks of life, from all over the world, all different races and nationalities. The kilt, a very classy garment, is the common agent here and as such evidences some very classy people. Folks here tend to be honest and that is a rare commodity on the internet. I'll probably never really understand why there are people who actually like to fight, argue, or generally be contentious on forums. It is some kind of sport to them and it bothers me that they can be so mean spirited. I was taught as a child that that kind of behavior was to be avoided. That kind of competitiveness does not exist here and I'm very glad of it.

I like the reference to the kids. My children,11 and 13, read here and I post with that in mind as well. The fact that the clergy is well represented also keeps me honest(Thanks for doing that folks!) It is out of respect for everyone here that I really try to apply The Golden Rule before I hit the submit button. If I have goofed (very possible) and posted something untoward, it was never meant to be as such and I apologize.

This place really is a haven from what Stephen Foster referred to in the song Beautiful Dreamer as "Sounds of the rude world" and maybe I'm a little selfish in wanting that to continue. I don't mind leaving a good chunk of myself at the door. Most times it's probably a part that I could live nicely without.
Alright, enough of the Mutual Admiration Society, back to kilts,
Bob

**McMurdo** · 28th February 08, 05:33 AM

Well said Jamie
I will relate a wee story that speaks to this if I may. In October of last year I felt that one of the other members was attacking my views. To make a long story short as I was writing up a viscous reply/tirade then the phone rang, it was my father was on the line. He told me that my Uncle Murdy had passed away, needless to say I hit the delete button and did not go back to the topic. To me it just was not worth it in the grand scheme of things.

Another thought that has come to me while writing this up is that I am proud of the forum, it's members and mods, if the posts were offensive or questionable at best, I would not recommend this site to anyone. As it is I have absolutely no qualms about saying check out xmarks.

**davedove** · 28th February 08, 06:01 AM

I'll have to agree with the Jaime's post.

In too much of today's society, especially on the internet, people just spout off anything without thinking of what they are saying.

Some people have the opinion that they should be able to say anything they like anywhere they want. While I can respect that point of view, I believe that there is a time and place for everything. There are rules to this forum and if you can't follow them, this forum is probably not for you.

I fully believe in free speech. In fact, since it is a part of the Constitution of the US, I took an oath to defend that right. However, I also believe in self censorship. As others have said here, there have been many times I started to reply to a thread only to delete it, because I felt it was inappropriate.