A story of Kilted Attention or: Why I can't go commando!

[Alan H]

While I'm kind of hard-nosed about my personal dignity...I am a hugger. Like ridiculously much.

What I am enjoying about this thread is that the "other side of the coin" is getting a hearing. Pretty much every single "I got kilt-checked" thread on X Marks in past years has bristled with indignation, demands for respect, accounts of loud lectures to the offenders, and so on. All that is fine, and I completely agree with pounding a good lesson into someone who thinks that it's just find to hoist someone's kilt in public because it's fun, or grope a guy in front of his wife because "He wore a kilt, he asked for it", or because you're a teenage girl in a crowd of teenage girls and obnoxious behavior is just *expected*..

you bet...

I think it's just good for the OTHER side to get a hearing once in a while. You know.... the side that says if a lass gives you a wink and happens to swat your kilted backside, maybe that's not always such a bad thing, eh? Maybe such behavior, in particular circumstances, or if you know the lass, might just be A-OK, in fact.

[Thorina]

People have different levels of what they feel is exceptable. I am not a hugger. I do not appricate people laying hands on me without permission. Many people are more open about contact. To each their own.

What strikes me (and my wife) is what part of wearing a kilt says they have the right to do this? If they wouldn't do this with me in jeans why would they with a kilt? I even get uncomfoartable when people ask for pictures. They don't do it with people in saris or other ethnic garb.

And sorry, I don't buy the excuse that "since you're wearing a kilt you asked for this." That doesn't work for a woman or a man period. I don't deserve this because I wear a kilt nor do I ask for it.

I put up with some attention to a point. It is flattering to be eyed by a lady. It is flattering to have a person complement me on the kilt. I have developed the thick skin you say I should have about the Question. But keep your hands to yourself is my rule and I expect the same of the others.

I also find it disrespectful to my wife if she is with me. I am hers period. To hit on or handle a woman's husband in front of them is asking for a angry reaction and mine is very possesive.

Jim

In the right circumstances....your wife would be helping me molest your bum, rather than feeling defensive that I was trying to steal her man. That's kinda how it's "supposed" to work. It's supposed to be all in good fun, not a criminal act.
In the best circumstance your wife and I would be nearly in tears laughing while doing a comprehensive evaluation of your's and my better half's bums at the same time....critiquing, etc.

Do you deserve it? No, no more than a girl in a short skirt.....but it does draw a certain amount of attention that jeans do not. Ya just don't see dudes in kilts real often here in the states. It's like girls that hike their sweater kittens up and all and wear a low cut blouse then get mad because every male pair of eyes within 3 miles it locked and focused on em.
We're not in Scotland. Yes, a dude in a kilt is something ya notice.
As well, most often, a guy in a kilt exudes a certain amount of confidence that a man in jeans does not. I believe this confidence is why people feel comfortable asking and even light hearted pleat lifting/bum patting occasionally.

[tundramanq]

*** Alan And Thorina This string has kept me in stitches for 5 hours straight

[rondo]

You know.... the side that says if a lass gives you a wink and happens to swat your kilted backside, maybe that's not always such a bad thing, eh? Maybe such behavior, in particular circumstances, or if you know the lass, might just be A-OK, in fact.

Alan,
Exactly the point I was trying to make about the Ren Faire earlier...at that time, in that place...no harm done. Besides the fact that my wife was laughing so hard she nearly fainted...Then I get a lecture about how after ten years I won't feel that it is no biggie, or that I'm not a "gentleman" because I didn't call the cops...
I responded to 2 posts then decided it was pointless, deleted them, and became the newest "Lewboski." Long live dudes!

Rondo

[Mael Coluim]

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[rondo]

To the OP...was any of this discussion helpful in finding ways to deal with the unwanted attention? Obviously the responses ran the gamut from call the cops and file charges to just blow it off. Its a shame you had to leave the concert but perhaps that was the best course of action.
Rondo

[eclarkhb]

Excellent, though provoking thread. Thank you all!

Unfortunately, I have nothing to add, since I have only worm my kilt competing in Highland games. But I'll be wearing it on St Patrick's Day in Downtown Huntington Beach, my first time kilted in "public" i guess.

Haven't decided if I'll be regimental or not yet - I'll let my mood guide me on the 17th.

Slante!

[Alan H]

Deleted by request, and happy to do so.

[Alan H]

Man oh man, that's a long post.

edit: not any more!

[flyingshamrock]

Excellent, though provoking thread. Thank you all!

Unfortunately, I have nothing to add, since I have only worm my kilt competing in Highland games. But I'll be wearing it on St Patrick's Day in Downtown Huntington Beach, my first time kilted in "public" i guess.

Haven't decided if I'll be regimental or not yet - I'll let my mood guide me on the 17th.

Slante!

Well be prepared to get kilt checked, especially since St. Patrick's Day fall on a Saturday. Everybody and their mother will be out. Well at least in my neck of the woods they will. I always wear black boxer briefs under my kilt that day. I usually have it lifted (by women of course) at least twice by 8:00 a.m. . Please don't take this negatively since this is your first public kilted adventure. Just trying to enlighten you on what happens on a day when women and men are inebriated early in the morning.