A story of Kilted Attention or: Why I can't go commando!

**Mael Coluim** · 8th March 12, 07:45 AM

Originally Posted by Father Bill

Chill, folks, and have one for me!

Bill+

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**sailortats** · 8th March 12, 07:49 AM

The moderators took a lot of grief when they first took this thread off. I, for one, would like to thank them now for returning it to the forum.

**Ryan Ross** · 8th March 12, 07:52 AM

Originally Posted by artificer

Alan's whole premise hinges on Friends, which simply aren't the same as strangers.

My friends and I treat each other in ways that would get us punched in the face if we were to do it to strangers. There is a bond and familiarity which is lacking in stranger interaction that allows for "brotherly" harassment.
To say that a friend pinching your bottom is the same as a complete stranger sticking their hand up your kilt is, at best, silly.

You might as well extend the ridiculous metaphor to say that the rules of behaviour you and your spouse are comfortable with (in private) are the same as the ones between strangers and yourself.
See where THAT will land you.

It's a matter of (earned) respect, familiarity, and boundaries. Strangers don't have any of the first two, so should respect the third.

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Very, very well said, Scott, and I agree 100%.

@Alan- I've known Mr. Newsome for a long time, and while I can tell you that he is always an unpstanding man and a gentleman, he is not the boring fellow that you make him out to be. Neither is he judgemental at all, and I felt a bit affronted when reading your post as well, just on the basis that Matt is my friend, and someone with whom I share quite a few personality traits and sensibilities in common.

All that said, I don't have a thin skin. Far from it, and even if I have distaste for people that try and go waaay beyond the pale in what they try to do to kilted strangers, it doesn't mean that I let things like that "bother" me, or that I harbor a grudge. I have a more diverse group of friends than anyone I know, and I appreciate people for their differences.

That being the case, I like to call a spade a spade, and when some girl I barely know, and have shown no interest in I might add, takes a handful of my junk (no, I don't mean my butt, I mean my JUNK, and no, this is not a hypothetical sittuation I'm talking about), I see that as inappropriate. Frankly, there just is not an argument against it being inappropriate.

Was I traumatized by it? Heck no. Did it make me lose any respect that I might have otherwise had for the girl that did it? Yes. So that illustrates the point- The people that act like this are hurting themselves, not people like me. And anyone that hurts themself is likely doing something that they'd be well advised to look at amending.

Originally Posted by sailortats

The moderators took a lot of grief when they first took this thread off. I, for one, would like to thank them now for returning it to the forum.

Me too.

**Father Bill** · 8th March 12, 08:21 AM

Originally Posted by Mael Coluim

Please PM us your mailing address to send you our bar bill!

Just give me a buzz - my home number is 911 NOT!

**Piipriker** · 8th March 12, 08:25 AM

Originally Posted by Mael Coluim

Please PM us your mailing address to send you our bar bill!

a creditcard number is sufficient. We charge ourselfs

**davidg** · 8th March 12, 09:04 AM

Originally Posted by davedove

I'm more with Matt on this one, but I see Alan's point as well.

MORE???

I'm absolutely with Matt on this one

Yes, I know that amongst friends you can say and do things that would not otherwise be acceptable in public but that's not what Matt is talking about. He is talking about respect for other people and if you do not know them intimately then you do not do something intimate with them without their permission. Simple as!